Hes Freakin Mental???????

Dear Diary,

Im just heading to bed, My ex just sent me an email at midnight tonight. And here is what he says…

“Victoria,

It would be nice to work this out without your Attorney getting rich. What I am asking for is not for you to sell the house and split the proceeds thus making you leave the house. What I’m asking for and what I didn’t get to say is this……..

1. I will quitclaim the deed.

2. I only want my tools that I have and the rest that are in the garage along with my personal stuff in there also. You can keep everything else. Furniture, pictures, jewelry and ect.

3. Refinance the house to get my name off the note, (Victoria, the interest rates are at a 40 year low……… You will drop your payment of the house, big!!! I strongly suggest you check into this. I have talked to a number of Realtor about this.)

You Talk about how you want a place for the boys to call home! I do to, look at your paper work it say that I get the for the summer, holidays and weekend; that’s 190 days a year, that they will be with me. You think I like the fact that they have to sleep on the floor too?

4. AlI that I was trying to ask for was $12,000.00. Not ever 1/4 of what I can by Californian law get.

Victoria, Every thing I said in your Attorneys Office was the truth, I have paper work to back it up and we be prepare to give it to the Court, in the event that you and I can’t work this out. The only ones that will make out is the Attorneys I am only asking for $12,000. It goes up from here. “

WHAT THE FRICK???????

So he goes to my attorney, says NONE of this, He asked for $37,000 there, things in the house, and on and on.

How the hell does a person settle anything with a person so mentally out of it?

And I just read this letter, part of it hes saying He will go back to the original terms. Except the part hes leaving out totally and completely is HES BEHIND ON SUPPORT. HE OWES ME BACK COMMUNITY DEBT AND CHILDRENS HEALTH AND MEDICAL? He never once figures any of this into the equation.

So I read the letter, it sounds nice, but the way he words the end its like a threat, TAKE THIS, or Ill go back to what I said! The part about “I have the paperwork to back it up” I know whats he talking about cause he said I have lied about my work hours, I make more money, I have a internet business, our house possessions are worth more, my vehicle is worth more, blah blah blah” Yeah whatever ::Eyeroll:: Im prepared to go up against all of his claims. And Im ok with going to court and providing documentation for it.

And Im supposed to feel bad that he doesnt have a place for the kids???? That is MY FAULT?? FUCK YOU!

Im sorry but a man who was making 3 times my income with paid living expenses, hotels, gas, food, rental cars and not paying support and seeing his kids every 2 mos for 2 days. Im supposed to feel bad about that?????

Im supposed to fucking feel bad that he isnt working right now? Hes capable of getting a job. But as my mom says. He will never find a job like that here and make the wages he was making with the nationwide company he was with. His ego has gotten to big now. His pride.

Sorry Im just venting here, imaginary if you will to my ex.

As my sister put it tonight… “Victoria, did he once mention his children in these meetings?” I said NO. She replied “Hmmm how nice” Im the one taking care of them. I have the past 2 yrs since he left. He will get them for 4 days for Thanksgiving. 8 days for Christmas, and 4 weeks in the summer.

Maybe if he wasnt buying his gadgets, toys, DVDS, sound equipment, computer accessories. He could possibly buy his kids beds? Hell I know where to buy them for under $100, cause its where I got the kids beds they now have.

Hes SELFISH. As the paralegal said today “Hes very bitter and angry and hes wants to hurt you, and hes trying to do so over the house” I said “Yes I know, hes upset because I ended the marriage, because I got tired of dealing with THAT” and I pointed to the door where he was told to leave by my attny.

Its late, I have to sleep, Ill think more about this tomorrow and a response to my ex.

Its just like what the hell? His email contradicts everything he said in my attnys office?

Hope hes feeling low for once in his life. I dont know that he is, I dont know what kind of a concience this man has. I wonder at times does he have one, is he mentally ill?

I will say, this is the first time in my life I have ever really seen someone stand up to my ex and royally put him in his place. You know the whole Karma thing?

Well the whole episode today where my attorney told him “LEAVE MY OFFICE” flashed me back to the counseling with our abusive pastor. My ex insisted I had an affair cause I talked to a man at the park. He called the pastor and yelled about my behavior. He wouldnt sleep with me or sit next to me at home for days, at church he wouldnt sit by me either. I remember sitting along, feeling like a scolded shunned child. And that evening I went to meet with the pastor with my ex. I then sat there as my ex yelled at me and told me I was having an affair again. And the pastor just shaking his head at me in disgust. I said “But I didnt do anything? I talked to a man at the park” The pastor shook his head and said I was playing games and began to yell at me along with my ex. They didnt ask me anything, they didnt let me speak, the just talked about me as I sat there and cried for the hour long session in a chair. Then they looked up at me and said “You can go now” it was 10pm at night. It was dark and the church was along the dessert and isolated area. My ex didnt get up to walk me out, I had to just LEAVE. I walked out hurt and crying, yet for the first time ANGRY. I knew something wasnt right. My mom was watching the kids for me during the meeting “Supposed marriage counseling session” I got to the door of the church and it was locked, the pastor needed his key cause they kept it locked at night so transients or people wouldnt walk in and i had to go back into the pastors office and get glared at again and asked to be let out. The pastor walked to the door and patted me on the back. I dont recall what he said but it pissed me off. I was so angry and just walked out. I cried on the way home and was saying out loud as I was driving “THIS IS NOT GODS LOVE! THIS IS NOT HOW GOD WORKS! WHAT WAS THAT????” And that was when I stopped going to that church, its what ended it pretty much for me.

So today my ex was put in his place and told LEAVE as we all sat there.

Wow