In Law Prob

I got an email today from my Mom In Law. I havent spoken to her since around Christmas Eve when I called her upset and scared of my Ex’s behavior. She was sympathetic and kind that day. Thats the last we have talked. I sent her a cute email story this AM. So today I get this email….

Its been quite awhile since I have herd from you. So I assume you have been going through a pretty rough time. I haven’t called on purpose. Frankly I was hurt you didn’t call to thank me for watching the boys. It may sound petty but that’s how I felt. Especially if their was a problem. I know things have been up n down in your life and I see how difficult this really is for the boys. I have some concerns I need to talk over with You.

People that love each other may not always agree, have feelings hurt, or not like something the other did. BUT, we can always talk. Even if it is to agree not to talk about a subject or not to talk for a time. You can even be angry with me, and we can talk about that too. Like it or not I love you, and you are stuck with me.

I love and miss the boys very much too. I am really looking forward to Mitchie’s visit. Seem to long till Easter break. I talked briefly with Mitch on his Bday because they were busy. I hope you guys enjoy shopping when Mitch gets his gift card.

Talk with you soon, I know I always ask; When is a good time to call?

HUGS

B

Now upon first reading it, some people may think its pretty nice. I was immediatly pissed reading this. What the heck is this??????????????

Background. My Mother in Law pretty much stopped coming to visit her son, myself and grandchildren about 6 yrs ago. She breached the client relationship at a womens shelter and took in a girl who is around my age. This girl has SERIOUS mental probs. And she has been Mom in laws companion since. Ok Mom in law has probs too.

So she has not come to stay with us since the birth of our last child. She came one day after my Ex practically begged her and said “Mom I need you” And his Mom came for one night. Her troubled roomate refused to stay home alone, saying my Ex Gmas ghost would bother her. So my Mom in law had to bring her nad put her in a hotel to visit ONE night with us. And she had to leave at night to check on her!!!

This is the same girl years ago when things were bad with my Ex and my Mom in law said me and the kids could stay anytime, said No when I called her in Need. I was so desperate I drove down the following weekend. Mom In law stayed with us, The roomate attempted suicide that night and ended up at the hospital. She does not share Ex’s Mom very well!

The whole family think the girl is a nut job. The shelter stopped helping her cause she wouldnt follow the program. Mom in law lived with her Mom, who died 2 years of cancer. Gma hated this girl in her home. She was dying, and wanted to be her daughter, and instead she had this messed up girl there. She hated it and told me and my Ex often. When she died this girl was beside her bed. MAny of the relatives found that horrible that his Mom allowed such a thing.

So My Ex took the kids up to a family event. He asked his own Mom who first refused, so my Ex asked an Aunt, once his Mom heard this she felt bad, it was a family event and how we should look as a Gma not wanting to watch her own Grandkids and her sister does it? So she changed her mind said she was sorry. I didnt drive the kids up nor see her. My Ex did. I figured the task of thanking would rest upon him since he had all the contact and not me. He asked her to watch them. The day he arrived with the kids the female roomie started a whole stupid act with the children, tattling on my oldest and not being an adult. So my Ex was very upset by this. We agreed that the kids would be ok since other relatives were there, but after this point, we will not allow our children to stay at Mother in laws for any extended period of time ( overnight) More like drop in visits. The girl is jealous of her time with the kids, and we are afraid she may harm them.

So I already new my youngest would not go and spend a week like the older did with Gma, Since my Ex and I agreed No more of this. So now she write me saying hes coming Easter Break? I never said that.

And lastly she wants to discuss her CONCERNS for the children. What the fuck? SOrry for the language, but for a woman who is never around for these kids and gives me guilt trip talks why on earth does what she have to say matter at this point? Last time she told me the kids need therapy.

How on earth is this woman able to say such things????? When she allows a messed up girl whos my age to sleep with her bed shoved up against hers? And this girl cant leave her alone.

I see more and more where my Ex and her are alike.

I used to feel bad, shed make these phone messages on my machine saying “I miss the children, I feel so removed from them, Where are you guys? Call me” when she can very well pick up the phone or come visit us anytime. She will drive 4 hrs to take this female roomies nephew to the snow, but not come and visit us???

My H has been torn over this for years! I pray to God he doesnt gang up with her to be a jerk. Im praying No cause he has been upset by his Moms actions along with the entire family.

So who knows what crap she will pull. When my Exs brother died, she called his former girlfriend when she was going to get married. Told her she must not have really loved him, that she was his one and only and how could she get married to another guy? And the former girlfriend told me once that she just called her after I visited her a few years, she had children now, and Exs Mom called her and just sat on the phone and cried, then said she dialed wrong number.

Dear Lord, dealing with my Ex is enough, but now her?