God Please
Dear Diary,
My ex called and asked if we could talk on the machine, civily no fights about this court stuff. I picked up the phone.
In a Nut shell what he had to say?
Hes OKAY with the kids around his mom WITHOUT one of us present NOW????
He and his mom both have concerns that the kids are acting out sexually, and they have said things about Boyfriend and I. (which he never stated what these THINGS were)
So basically they are trying to peg ME for this? And she started this last March, then he jumps in Right after Jan of this year and all the sudden AGREES With her? After he is the one who iniated the talk about the kids not around her?
How fucking fucked up are these people?
I say this right now as MOTHER. HOW DARE YOU!
I know my children are in safe hands in this house. And they have seen the boyfriend a total of 4 times in over a year and a half and have never been alone with him, nor have I even showed affection to him in their presence because of being so paranoid. SEE WHY THE HELL IVE LIVED MY LIFE THIS WAY IN FEAR!
BECAUSE OF SICK FUCKS LIKE MY EX AND HIS MOTHER!
If we even have to go thru all of this court process, the children are gonna be put thru all of this. All because of their STUPID reasons, reasons to get back at me or whatever it is?
So if he has felt Im such a bad mother exposing my children to sexual things why the hell does he live across the US, not pay me support for 3 mos , and not see his kids often? Wheres the fucking logic in his words.
Ex said “You realize we are ALL gonna have to go thru Physc Evaluations?” I said YES. And you know what, how I feel BRING IT ON! Im so fucking ready, My ex has a load of issues, and my In Law is a BOOK I could write. So yeah they ought to be nervous about it, Im all for it!
I told my ex that the kids are gonna mention the people we are around. Its normal, whatever my they are trying to create I have no idea because to be honest I have never heard there accusation ever of what it is they are saying is going on. Last March Ex yelled and said I was fucking guys in front of the kids when the kids say boyfriend one morning in my room. They saw him sitting there, we were dressed and not doing anything, and that was it. And he started this whole issue saying Im fucking men in front of the kids. That when I was scared of him last year and he was harassing me at work.
My ex also told me that if I dont give him the $12,000 he wants, and we dont decide that the court will force us to sell it. My attorney has never made a statement like this. So its his attorneys word or what have you.
I told my Ex, “Im offering your half, you just want the cash NOW, the original agreement we came to was you get it when I sell it or when I refinance it” But now you want it NOW up front. I said “If you even force me and the kids out of the house, that will not sit well with me at all”
He then started saying stupid shit such as “Well you know you said youd rather quit your job and sit home and collect child support and alimony” and you have our kids in childcare 50 hrs a week and you only work 24 hrs!
Where the hell this was coming from I have no idea, everything he was saying was purely bogus. He then told me CANT YOU WORK FULL TIME? I said My God I work 30 hrs as it is and take the kids and I to groups, what do you want me to do? He said “TRY HARDER”
I sat there and cried. He was silent. He said “Victoria, Im sorry up front for how this is all gonna go” and we said goodbye.
HE IS A FUCKING MESSED UP SELFISH ASSHOLE.
Yes I know its all his words and threats right now, doesnt mean any of it is truth or will happen the way he says it.
But if he and his mother start this, LORD HELP ME.
By the way the old girlfriend of his deceased brother called me today. She told me that she had to quit answering her phone to get rid of mother in law, that she was persistant at trying to contact her but with time she finally quit. Then of all things she ran into her at the store today, that was why she called me. And what does she say to her right off “Oh I miss my grandkids soooo much”
FUcking nut jobs all of them!
She sent the kids a package the other day, Color books, with a return receipt,
and why is that?
I never dreamed my ex would team up with his mother, the woman he has talked bad about all our life together, the woman I kept in his life and kept us all together as best I could. The one who told him “Shes all you have, dont miss out on your time here on earth with her because when they are gone we cant get it back”
The woman he said to me “Victoria, I dont have a mother, shes not a mom!”
Divorce, YES I HAD TO DO IT. But you see what utter sick and ugliness it brings out of people. And what for????
DEAR GOD, PLEASE DO SOMETHING