Mom & Happiness

Dear Diary,

I went to see Mom right after work. Found her at her job. So I handed her the letter from Mom In Law. We stood there together. Mom and daughter, as she read. She then just looked up with a silent look. I knew she took it how I did, she understands whats behind it all. My Mom is a smart woman and I admire her.

Mom said to me “Hun, you are going to have to be the adult in all of this. I know its tough, you can see the resemblance in your Ex and her, they dont like us hun, your dealing with a whole different mindset, you were not brought up this way, so dont take it personal and think of the source of where this comes from” I love my Mom. She told me to maybe even write down my response on a piece of paper before hand so I stay to what is needed to say in response. And to avoid making anything unnescessary. Mom said “I told the Ex after his outburst last weekend ” I will never say a negative thing about you to your children, I have 2 concerns in all of this, and it is 2 Little Children, that is all that matters to me” THat is the one nice thing about my family. We dont deal with all of that kinda game stuff. I just dont have to deal with all of this other stuff.

Im going to also talk to the guy I met for one on one sessions at group about this, get some feedback. I need to establish some boundaries, with my Mom in Law along with Ex.

My Mom shared with me how my father and his Mother didnt have a good relationship and my Mother was the only thing that kept any kind of relationship. She told me that his mother criticized my mom for disciplining my siblings when they visited. She was horrified because my Dads Mom didnt ever discipline my father as the child. She had him in her 40s and it was her only child and she considered him her miracle. And her motto was “No regrets” so she felt that if she punished my father she would regret it. My mother informed me my father burnt down a barn as a child and his Dad whipped him for it, and his Mom totally gave his Dad hell for doing so. My Dads father died when he was 13.

Anyways, Im just thankful to have my mother near by to talk to, Not that I live my life by everything she says, but I do value her advice and opinions. Im seeing how less concerned I am with men at the moment. Im a bit more focused on myself and things I need to do. Ive been able to go to bed without staying up late or even talking to my Love. Which isnt a bad thing. We dont have to always talk.

I called the attorneys office and they are mailing out some papers to my Ex today! So Im just praying to god this all gets finalized ASAP. I just want this over. I want to be free from all of the legal things.

I will say, once again, TODAY I AM HAPPY IM GETTING DIVORCED!