IN SHOCK
I just got a call from my sitter.
Warning me to be careful who I talk to. Im like huh?
She said “My Husband told me your Ex is talking to someone here in town you least expect and I want you to becareful who you talk to”
Well she couldnt stand it and said she felt I should know because of all the legal stuff going on.
I wrote about running into a church friend from my old church about a week or so ago, she is going thru a divorce also. I went over and hugged her and talked to her for about 20 min, About my ex, the kids, how they are doing, how he hardly sees them, on and on. She told me she wasnt seeing anyone, she told me about this Bible study she is doing with this woman from church I was in a Mommys group with. I have known this woman way back before ex and I got married. Her whole family and me and my ex were all close for a time. My ex spend time with her nephew and worked with all the kids in the youth group. I did parties in this womans home and with her family. My Ex used to always make fun of her at church when we were married and I was always telling him to stop being so mean to her. So she told me at the bank she saw my ex and the kids at church on one of his visits. And Im telling her he should be there the weekend of the birthday.
Not knowing all this time she is seeing him. She is separated from her husband who left her for her best friend.
So my friends C and his wife fit into this picture because we were all a core group of friends, very family like. And my ex wont speak to C because they are around me, and C didnt know why. Then this womans nephew showed up at his house the other night and confided in him that my ex and her are involved.
Its just this big hairy incestuous almost feeling thing. Because these people go so far back in my life. Her aunt came to see me at the hospital after having our first child. The fact that I hugged her in the bank and thought we had so much in common both being church women from the same church dealing with divorce, not knowing she was involved with my ex as I spoke to her and she played stupid about it all.
I guess its a stab in the back feeling. I have been crying. Im in shock. Why her? Why someone here in town? Why someone in this knit circle of friends?
My close friends I spoke to said “This will all backfire on him you watch”
I just am so weirded out that I sat and hugged her and told her how he hardly sees his kids, and all this time she was with him.