Weekend Getaway
Dear Diary,
Ahhh the kids are home now from their visit with Dad. B is at Ju Jitsu, youngest is out riding his bike, oldest is watching tv and I have dinner in the oven for the kids.
First off just let me say once again what a jackass my ex is. First oldest is having his birthday on Tuesday and he wont see his Dad for 2 weeks now, and his DAD did ZILCH this weekend for his bday.
BUT when they first arrived at their Dads they said they had to wait for their Dads friend and then go to Best Buy for Dad to buy a similar type of IPOD thing, then youngest said that Dads friend was buying it for him for the work hes doing and on and on.
Me and my mom just sat there looking at eachother.
This is the stuff that just totally makes me wanna call him up and ask him what the hell is wrong with him?
He hasnt paid any child support since going to the DA and spouting off he can pay it. Nor is there any progression yet with my case, I keep calling, and it just says April 17th sent to a search agency, Well spare yourselves the time he quit that job or something so theres nothing to get from then, just bring his damn ass back into court already and smack him for what hes been doing for all this time.
You know? How convenient to do side work or get paid with the person BUYING You something instead, what an asshole(sorry folks but this is where I can let out my cussing cause I sure dont talk this way in real life)
Just angers me and then he did nothing for oldest for his bday. Instead the kids got a few gifts from their other grandmas half her age lesbian partner sicko relationship chick.
And I got the kids back today having eaten a diet of donuts all sunday once again so I have to get some chicken in their bodies to calm them down.
So anyways. I did get away this weekend. I got B from work, first off I got an economy car, and let me say it sucked, I mean it drove us to where we needed to go but spending 5 more dollars a day for an upgrade is WORTH IT. I wont do that again. The car didnt ride smooth, was small, not very comfy, just the other car was nice, plush, smooth ride, cruise control, power everything. I was trying to save money but B and I both agreed next time to spend the $5 a day for the nicer one.
So we got to Carpenteria, I was afraid we wouldnt find a place so wanted to just get it out of the way, Well we got a room at Motel 6. Freaking $76! For a cheapo room. I should have gotten a refund right away. But once again live and learn right?
We headed out to State Street in Santa Barbara cause the room depressed me. I told B I could not hang out in it. So we went to an Italian Restaraunt, I think its called Paoli? Or something like that, we ate there on our last trip so it was perfect for dinner. And we had our fave Tiramisu for dessert, ate at an outside table with the birds coming around to gather bread crumbs.
Afterwards we drove around trying to check out a movie to see, well we drove and drove in circles and couldnt figure a movie, then i basically had an anxiety attack and just told B and asked him if hes ever had one and we got into talking about it. We pulled over and parked along the beach and were gonna go walk out but I was crying and just all out of it. I didnt know what was up with me. I was freaked about the hotel room and didnt wanna go back to it, like claustraphobic thoughts about it, plus I was on my period so no sex, so all I envisioned was us sitting there in that horrid plain room with B watching tv and me bored outta my mind. And that freaked me out, so B said “Want to go by drinks and a deck of cards?” and basically was asking me how to make it better. I didnt know, we just talked, I cried, then took a midol and just told B I had to cry, he said to go ahead. I said I also get afraid to cry for fear he will get upset but then I told myself SO WHAT? If he gets upset then hes not worth my time and if im afraid it will scare him away, too bad! This is me.
He was cool about everything, and I basically said lets leave and go back to the room, it was almost 9pm. So we took a side road back at night, it was dark and almost felt like the woods! We were in Montecito, yes the area where Oprah WInfrey and Jen and Brad Pitt once shared a home. So its all ritsy and nice and so we are going through this tiny road its dark and we could hear frogs! It was so cool, B stopped and shut the car lights off and we just sat there, no street lights, it was dark.
It was a neat little moment that was so cool. We drove back to Carpenteria and went to the Starbucks and got coffee. De Caf that is.
And I remembered I had a blanket and my pillow in the back so I through it on the hotel bed to make it more homey and removed those horrid uncomfy bedspreads, drank my coffee which warmed me up and I was mentally and physically exhausted, I curled up on B as he watched tv and i must have been asleep in like 15 minutes! So it was perfect. I made it through the eve without some episode or fight! YAY!
So I got up early on Sat, around 7:30. I got dressed and told B I was going out for a walk/run. Luckily the area was a nice one and not far from where we last stayed, its just near the beach so I went out through a cute little residential area. It was really nice, people out walking dogs, jogging or walking up the steet to Starbucks for coffee.
I figured the exercise would help me release some tension and that yucky period feel. And it did just the trick, I came back and got in the shower, then B got up. So we headed up to Solvang, and realized we forgot to check out of our hotel! LOL so I called and they did it over the phone, I told B “I guess we really wanted to get out of there” And I also said it was worth it to spend more on a nice room next time.
So we got to Solvang and ate at the Pancake house. Mmmmm fresh Belgian waffles with strawberries and whipped cream! It was nice. Then we were to go wine tasting. Well there was a wine tasting room just a few down from the Pancake House, Cabana it wa s called. Neat idea, instead of a winery it was sorta like a wine bar and they sell wine but bring in wines from all over and do tasting, we were there just before noon so we hung with the guy who works there who was super cool and just got to hang out, talk, tell stories, it was really nice and he drew up a map of wineries to check out. So that was even better, then his assistant fill in for the day came in and she and her hubby own an inn out there too and I got that info.
So it was a really nice start to the day, Next we went to RUSACK winery on the advice of the guy, It was off a little road and took awhile to get to but they told us how beautiful this place was. And they were right! B and I got our wine and then went and sat on the deck and just relaxed for awhile. A nice place to stop and bring a lunch next time! 2 tour groups of ladies came in limos to do wine tasting and lunch while we were there.
Here is the winery…
CLICK HERE RUSACK WINERYif the link doesnt work go here
http://www.rusackvineyards.com/about.html