Children & Movies

Dear Diary,

Was just browsing the net for some websites that rate movies and give the content and age appropriateness of the films. I think I like www.familystyle.com so far and will recommend this to my ex.

I had a talk with him awhile ago about the movies the kids were watching, the kids are 8 and 10. And I began to notice cursing coming from them, we dont talk that way, and I began to notice also a lot of aggression. Now granted they are boys, and yes there are things boys do, things pick up in school, etc etc. But I was asking my kids where they were hearing such words or things, and my oldest told me straightforward, the movies and Dad.

But my oldest did it at school and with the neighbor and I was notified, see my kids are pretty innocent in some ways, such as they really do not even understand things they here or see that are not good to do but sometimes do them because they have heard or seen them. So Ive been talking to them in more detail about why we do or do not do certain things, what things mean.

Omgosh? Did I write? Monday after the weekend with their Dad, B got home from work and said Hello to my little one who then replied with “Hey Giggolo”

B stopped and said “Do you even know what that means?” He said “No?” He said “Well look it up and dont use that word” This weekend B brought this up to me, I just figured my kid heard the word but he said “Vicky do you know what that word means? Does there Dad know Im living here? It just seemed a strange word for him to use or where did he hear that after seeing his Dad” I agreed, which reminds me to have a talk with little one about the word.

Anyways, the kids watched Hellboy and Catch Me If You Can. I havent seen Hellboy, and I have seen Catch Me If You Can, and recall some sexual nature scenes. Im very guarded with my kids and film and Tv. I took them to see Chicago, which is probably the **Worst** film if you would call it that that they have ever seen with me. Other then that if I rent a movie I like, like Moulin Rouge, we watch it for the musical scenes, as I have it at home, but I can edit the films myself.

But as far as watching films goes, my kids usually see the normal kid and teen films that are age appropriate. You know Cartoons, Disney, Spy Kids, Freaky Friday, all that fun stuff.

Then they are with Dad watching cursing, excessive violence, partial nudity. And Ive just had enough after this past weekend. Im going to write him a letter again, and just tell him to stop having them watch films unless he can buy childrens movies. He cannot seem to gauge what is appropriate.

And I know going back to the private school will probably bring some of this out in the school setting as they are pretty conservative over there and even my girlfriend whos daughter is going there, the parents were spoken to about the movies there daughter was watching and talking about at school a year or so ago. Which I think isnt such a bad thing. Kids are only kids for so long, let them be kids, and I really am not cool with implied sexual scenes starting up thoughts and ideas before they are mature to understand them, we have an oversexed society to begin with.

Now granted I may sound funny as the “Moral” police on some of these topics, but I dont flash sex around in my house.

I mean really, if I wanted to, which i dont, but I could go and seek mediation again, hell I could probably have the visits stopped until he can get a place of his own and doesnt sleep with them in a garage.

I know that stuff does not look good. Anyways, Ive been slacking on my paperwork, I need to really get the DA on him with the child support and see if he gets jailed over that, that right there could really change his involvement in their lives or could slap him with a good wake up call to get his act together.

Must get a move on with that…..