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Dear Diary,

Hiya, In response to some comments…

by the way- i have some Be Calm got from Mothers Market. . . unfortunately i cant get my son to take it. what is your trick?

They actually sell it in swallow capsule form and their also sell chewables. I didnt think my kid would take them via the swallowing capsule route(Hes 8) But all I told him was to set it on his tongue and drink it with his water, just pretend he was taking a drink. I thought he would complain, blah blah blah, but he didnt? So I guess I got lucky, he takes it no problem and knows how to swallow it.

AND how far away is your sis from you?
what she needs to do is have a packing party.
she needs to get all f his shit that he left around the house and pack it and get it boxed up; call him and say it will be int he driveway at _____ time and you can either pick it up or i leave it there for someone to take.

My sister is a little over an hour from me. Ive offered over and over again to come out and help, so has my family, her husbands family, her husbands friends, her friends. She even told me this the other night how many people have offered to help. My sis was saying she needed to do all the lawn work this weekend, the yard looked like hell, and Bro in Law said “You dont need to be worrying about yard work right now, you have enough going on, call a gardener, Ill pay for it”(She was crying telling me this saying how sweet he is)

And then he told my sister to call her husband and tell him to get all his shit out of the backyard and garage cleaned out, my sister said “Yeah right, like he will listen to me” He told my sister “Tell him, if he doesnt, I will call him up and make sure he does”

Sooo, anyways, Ive offered to come help pack up her stuff even, but she just keeps telling us she doesnt need us to come over. She told middle sister “The phone is fine for right now”

So? Its like??????

Her husband came in the house Monday night when she was at work and took the computer. I keep telling her to change the locks that she can, he moved out. But its up to her to get this stuff done.

Social Worker has been calling, my sister is in between her attny calls, trying to arrange (today a realtor is to come over and her husband) I just highly doubt he will show up, but we shall see.

The social worker went to the school to talk to the teen, the teen wont tell the Dad a thing that was said. He just said she was in a foul mood. And he for the first time took her to a therapy appt cause the social worker told him she has to go.

Yep my sister went and stayed the night over at the bro in laws, went with him out of town, to an unemployment hearing, and they got the van also for the business they were starting up together.

My sister said the other night “Victoria I wish I was attracted to him, because if I was it would be great, and he feels the same way”

I dunno,,, its all just so bizarre, my middle sis says “Big sis has a way of not telling the full story of things or emiting stuff”

I mean maybe they are just really cool friends,,, but its been like? Hes calling her up every day checking on her, coming over, taking her out to dinner, taking her out when shes down with him and friends, has her over for dinner, is paying for a gardener, is standing in her defense to his Mom, telling his brother what a jackass he is being and defending her. They took a business trip out of state the 2 of them for a week before all this came down….

Who knows, B says “Ahhh they just need to go and fuck eachother”

But we dont know if they havent already and they are just playing it cool? Who knows really.

My sister married her husband and never told the family for years, then she told me but nobody else. So you know? She does weird stuff. No I dont think shes doing this and with him to shock her husband(his brother) My sister and the bro in law always seemed close before this all happened. Hes at their house all the time, he was babysitting the girls cause her husband claimed he was working late(Lies! He was with the girlfriend) He brought gifts and things for the girls, they took trips, all of them often. So the bro in law has been around for years. Shes been talking about him ever since the ex and I split as she was trying to push us to date. She would call me and tell me how wonderful and thoughtful he was and good with kids.

Well, I hung out at home all sat AM, the cable company was supposed to come and put in high speed internet between 8- noon. Nobody showed up, no calls, I called, they had to put out a call to a resolution team because my order was marked completed and nobody did anything. I finally got a call at 4:30pm! The supervisor apologizing to me, that it was too late as there were no techs to go out and they could do it Monday! Grrrr I have to work all week. So I have it scheduled now for May 1st. They said they are giving me $15 off for 15 mos, and Im supposed to get a $20 credit also, the first rep told me that, and then said they would call me within 2 hrs. and I didnt get a call almost 3 hrs later, then called again, and thats when the supervisor called me.

Grrr so I have to wait another week :(.

Im in the midst of switching so much stuff its a pain. I have no long distance on my home phone as it takes a week for it to be up and going(the new plan I got)

My cell everyday minutes are almost maxed, so I have to be careful until May 6th. I have eves and weekends free though, but my cell battery doesnt hold a charge very long. I plan to get a new one when my tax return arrives.

I called to get rid of AOL and they of course always give you a free month but they gave me the dicounted bring in your own access plan that I have to have them help me set up once the high speed internet goes in,, or else I only have so many hours on the AOL and have to pay per min or hour or whatever it is…

What a pain this all is.

Cant wait till its all done.

When the cable modem goes in Im getting rid of my voice mail also. So just waiting.

Trying to cut out a lot of costs around here.

I went from a $25 unlimited long distance plan, to a $15 one.

Im getting the net for $40 a month, and getting rid of aol and voice mail $24 + $7.

So whats up for today? I need to go get some gas for the mower, do the back yard, return some stuff to Staples. Go to Walmart for a few cleaning/toiletries things. I would like to wash my Jeep too. Make dinner at home tonight with B(what to make though?) And I think Harry Potter is on TV tonight, thought it would be cool to sit and watch it with popcorn and the kids, B’s never seen any of the movies, I think hed enjoy it. And we just need to spend some time hanging with the kids. Im going to put a stop to the going to my room and the tv stuff.

We talked a long time last night about some of this stuff.

Cute Gym guy called me again friday, I told him no once again, the week prior I didnt answer.

He just asks to come over and hang, eat snacks, watch a movie with the kids and I. And I have to admit its so freakin tempting.

So Im really willing to give things with B the best shot I can, and not revel in the what ifs of another guy, but create it with who I am with.

I should put a call in for a Sat counseling session for B and I, my facility just added saturdays. So we agreed going here is better then his area. Part of me is nervous and drained to try this with him, but then realizing the difficulties we have in communication and perception is such a big thing, I guess it makes me wonder what a therapist would say seeing us? Im really curious ya know? We shall see.