Annoyed – Sis & Ex

Dear Diary,

Okay so I had to get this out first before I can write or think about much else.

There are times when relatives or loved ones do things, and you just dont get it, and yes Im bothered by it.

My sister finally called me last night.

Mind you last time I spoke to her was about 3pm Saturday. She called me while I was at D’s at a bday party to tell me my ex called and was on his way over to her house. I was a little bleh to be called and told this….

She said shed call me back later to tell me what happens.

So I dont hear back, tried calling her home and cell phone Sat eve, nothing. She calls me Sunday night about 10pm.

So here it is….

My ex came over? Then asked her if she wanted to go hang out at a local bar?

Okay, my sister lives about an hour to an hour and a half from me. I have not seen her since Christmas, she cancelled coming up on Easter because she said this stuff was all too much and she wasnt up for it.

Ive offered to go out several times, offered to help pack.

No she doesnt want it.

WELL, my sister DROVE OUT TO MY AREA TO GO HANG AT A BAR WITH MY EX IDIOT HUSBAND?????????

It still makes no sense to me. I just got quiet listening to her. I didnt know what to say. She has no concept I guess of how it feels for me. And then to hear she was in town and didnt call? Didnt come and see me??? Shes all “Well I thought about it, then I thought of going to Mom’s but it was 10:30pm and I was out of my element long enough and went home”

???????????????

Why did they come out here to go to a bar? Why not in her city?

Anyways

She was commenting on what my ex looks like now. Yeah he looks pretty gross. Then she tells me “Yeah whats up with the long goatee, the big hoopy earrings, and the shaved head? And he told me he has his penis pierced”

Im all “HE TOLD YOU THAT?”

Shes all “Yeah, and he told me he did it himself”

WHat the fuck? You know?

:::Shakes head:::

I guess Im speechless here to be honest.

God just typing this right now, I want to cry as Im hurt and angry?

B was over when she called and told me this, when I hung up he said to me “Victoria, see even your own family is fucked up with issues” and he understood why I was bothered.

My sister told me how she talked to him about his fianances and about God.

And I guess I just want to barf.

Shes all “I feel like Momma Hen”

So yep. My sister was in my city Saturday night at a bar having beers with my abusive ex husband. While shes in the midst of a divorce for her husband having an affair and a fake life.

Okay Okay,,
so enough of that, theres nothing more else I can really say, Im just upset at her I guess, and then the other part just shuts down because I dont want to say anything because shes going through so much crap. But I dont know, there has to be lines drawn and my own boundaries I guess? Its like here my ex has done so much crap to me, how would she feel I was having her soon to be over to talk and go hang out with and hes calling me sympathetic to my relationship situation when hes done the very same things himself???????

ugh, I feel all weird after typing this out, Like really upset almost shaky?

You know I guess what keeps going through my head is my ex saying “Her husband did what? Your sister is the kinda woman any man would die to have” Then he goes and calls her that night, then shows up at her place, then invites her to a bar, then brags of his penis piercing???”