Men dont want MOMMY

Dear Diary,

Goodmorning. Well its almost noon!

The kids are playing in the kitchen with figures and toy helicopters and have built something for them on the kitchen table. I have had to break them up a few times, the arguing. I listen, my little one manipulates my older one. When in fact, if my oldest would just get it, he actually holds the power in the situation but doesnt know how to exercise it. His little brother LOVES and constantly wants to play with him, yet little bro will get bossy and dictator like, then start telling older one what to do, older one gets upset and sometimes even cries, then I intervene, and I constantly tell him “Dont play with him, if you dont like how hes treating you STOP PLAYING” but he still hasnt taken my advice, his little brother will be in his doorway if he walked away and refused to play, begging him to come back. Ahh its also like Im seeing things from the “Why Men Love Bitches” Book in real life situations now. And seeing the dynamics between people. My oldest is TOO NICE.

My little one is michevious with an edge.

Well we got the puppy. She is sore from getting fixed but can walk, shesjust slow. Shes still sweet as can be. She just wanted to DRINK water SOOO BAD. Its so hot here and she was in surgery and they said no food or water the first day. She was literally licking the concrete and staring at my laundry room sink(Shes smart too!) I took her out back to see our other dog, even though shes slow, he little tail wagged at him, and he was thrilled and running around, probably wonder what the heck was up with her being so calm. She cant play with him yet.

I had her sleep in the laundry room last nite, when I came in this AM her little tail wagged, and I saw she peed on the floor, It was on the blanket I spread out, but I got a towel and stomped up the rest. Ill have to get my carpet clean out and clean the area today.

So shes outside now. She really seems to want to be out there, she actually wants to be around the other dog. But I tied him up a little later this AM as he just doesnt get he cant be all over her. So that way she can get out of his reach and stay outside awhile. So they are both napping right now out back.

I went and rented some movies last night, I got Catch Me if You Can and Spartacus. I watched part of Catch me If You Can last night but I was falling asleep about midnite so I stopped it. I rarely watch movies ALONE. Ive always been all weird about it. But now that Im learning to be more comfy with ME and do things for ME, It was like I set out to pick out movies for ME to take time out to watch. 🙂

So guess who called last night? I was reading my book when he called, it was around 8pm. He was sorta out of breath, he just got in from his class and said he was gonna shower and make some dinner, but he wanted to call and say Hello and that hed call me back when he was done doing all that. I said “OK, love you bye” and hung up smiling as Im reading my book. Hes calling me to say HI? thats all? Then to shower and all that? LOL how sweet!

I finished my book this AM. I think the best chapter of the book for me was the chapter on Nagging. The stuff I typed from the book was from the Nagging Chapter, and well from start to finish the chapter is EXCELLENT! The thing about Women become like the Mans Mom in their eyes. And how that happens, and its so simple after you read it!

So lets see, some great stuff I read was….

Once a woman realizes her man is going into coach potato mode she often mistakenly tries to address it. “You never take me out or bring me flowers anymore” Or “We never spend time together” This is a sign to a man that he has her right where he wants her. Now he doesnt participate because in his mind all it takes to satisfy her is his presence. He says “Im with you arent I?”

My Note: OH YES! Ive heard that comment too!

“When he takes you for granted youve triggered the same kind of love he had for his mother, grandmother, or some other woman who raised him. Now youve become “old faithful” No matter how much you scream at him, he knows you arent going anywhere. “She may kick my ass, but she will still love me and I can do whatever I want” And its this security blanket you DONT want him to have.

Men know its wrong, but they will still try to see how far they can push the envelope. If he takes you for granted and you pull back a little with no explanation, it catches him off guard and gets his attn bigtime. Your no longer acting in a way he is used to and you are no longer his mommy. This action generates desire for you as a lover. But if you posture yourseld as old faithful he will perceive you as his mother and take you for granted. The objective is to avoid being his mom and to make the transition back to being his lover.

A man cant correlate sexual feelings with feelings for his Mom. So be careful of the female figure that you become in his life. To stay his lover, you have to keep him on his toes. This behavior incites his interest and makes him come your way. He is happier being your lover that he is when you become his mother. Granted he looks comfy and content on the couch. But he isnt content when you become his mother because he no longer has a lover… and neither do you.”

Ok enuff book for now…