Chat with HIM
Dear Diary,
Oops forgot to mention the chat with the ex last night. When it gets to him questioning me about a person, that was the woman he was dating that I knew personally and had no idea she was dating my ex and she played all friendly to me, then later on few mos ago she phoned me. Said shed been wanting to talk to me since she saw me, and is there anything I needed to know about my ex.
Ex: hey??
you there ?
Me: yes
Ex: hi
Me: hey
Ex: ……
Ex: sorry trying to thing
Ex: think
Me: ok
Ex: first things first….money, how bad to you need money… i know that it a really dumb question
but… it’s a question
Me: Yes dumb question I dont even have to answer that one
Ex: i get my first check this week
Ex: lol.. yeah i know
Ex: would you be ok i give you a hundred this week
Me: If your gonna give me money then do it dont talk about it, it means nothing until I see it
Ex: that fine.. but will it be ok?
Me: Are you on drugs or something?I havent received support since July 2002, all but $50, what do u think?
Ex: Victoria, i’m really trying here do do things right here
Me: Well Im just saying do you realize how strange your questions
are?
Ex: No i’m not on drugs….
Ex: Yeah i know…….
Me: Doing the right thing means taking action, not words, not emails
Ex: just trying to strighten my shit out ok ?
Me: ok then show it ok?
Ex: yeah well ok… i can only give you a hundred this week then…
how that
Me: Ill take what you have to give to me
Ex: LOL.. i have a boot
Me: to throw at ya?
Ex: to at you………
Ex: for the never ending headache i have……
Ex: the boys……
Ex: if i take the boys i would have to drop them off ata babysetter at
4:30 which means i would have to get them up at 3:30 to get them there, i
dont think it would be good
Me: ok so we need to make some changes to the visitation, but Im gone also at school
Ex: yeah i know…..
Me: So either you need to make some arrangements to have them and a
sitter, just like I have to do when its my time with them, or opt out on wednesdays, because its not my night with them and me and my mom shouldnt
have to figure out what to do
Ex: no i agree…. i just don’t know how to work this and it is my responsibility to
Me: If your local it works just fine, but now with you away might be best to change things
Ex: yeah i just couldn’t fine the paying job up there
Me: so how about going back to every other weekends? back at 6pm sun nites
Ex: so so dont want to.. i misses those guys
Me: can u still get them on the fri at school or have that worked
out?
Ex: i can pick them up after school, depending on traffic up the 15…
yeah i can i work it out
Me: ok I just dont want them stranded is all
Ex: they wont be stranded
Me: so we could go back to every other weekend and maybe put something in like…when you are free, days off, etc, put in a request if theres
nothing going on type thing to see them, I dunno what else? you have ideas
Ex: are you on drugs? your being to nice, it scares me
Me: I am nice
Ex: yeah just not to me
Me: you just choose not to see it
Ex: lol.. ok
Me: You usually are just so defensive, you blow up over statements, so its very hard to talk to u, your the one whos being NICE, your scaring ME, other way around my dear
Ex: VICTORIA???????
Me: ok new topic
Ex: thank you
Me: so what will we do with the kid thing, lets get it covered
Ex: your idea of the wording would be very welcome
Me: Well I need to write up something, not off the top of my head.
Ex: I do have a question for you
Me: whats that
Ex: why did you e-mail *****?
Me: new topic ok back to kids, so Ill have my mom get them
Ex: ??????
Me: tomm from school?
Ex: where you trying to get me back?to hurt me?
Me: Ok I just need you to email me that ok? telling me you arent
coming.Im not going to have that discussion ok?
Ex: well …. ok, but you really hurt me. i didnt think you could ever
stopp that low.
Me: Ex, give it up
Ex: but hey it work…….
Me: you want to talk about hurt we can go back and forthok?
Ex: i had too….
Ex:Victoria i never talked to B about what happened in side our
marraige
Me: And B never called you asking, so
Ex: lol.. i was told that you wanted her to call you
Me: She called me, said shed been wanting to talk to me, I never tried to call her
Ex: you never tried contacting her thought ****?
Me: nope
Ex: you never told **** that you wanted to call her?
Me: nope
Ex: hmmmmm, Victoria then what the heck happened?
Me: I dont know. she called, she can tell you
Ex: Yeah ok this is what i heard……
Me: Ex, why do I care?
Ex: you know why…
Me: No Im asking you to stop
Ex: Ok
Me: thanks
Ex: sorry
Me: us getting along and working out things with our kids is whats
important, getting divorced and apart legally is important
Ex: hey you have a good nite, i guess it was chatting with yo u, boy howdee
Me: are you coming in?
Ex: for a landing?
Me: no attny office said you wanted to settle, we have a trial date
Ex: They told me that we had to get the property settled first , are we settled?
Me: thats about all we have left? they said you called them, and wanted to settle just wanted your things in the garage, so I did that, and now they said they were calling u , or else we go to trial
Ex: I have not got a call from them
Ex: Victoria i couldnt handle a trail at this point
Me: well if you want to settle out of court give them a call, Cause
our trial is April
Me: well just telling you its on calendar, are you still at ** or near work now? same address to send u stuff?
Ex: yeah.. same address
Me: ok
Ex: i’m at my aunts right now
Me: ok
Ex: So why dont you do this you call and tell them that we have come
to a settlemnt and have them call me
Me: It doesnt matter what I say, you have to do it your your own attny you see? so Im telling you but you will need to come in, or call and ask them what you have to do
Ex: yeah i know i need to come in
Me: I never know with you so if you mean it you do it
Ex: I talked to her already about this… she said that she would not
draw up the paper work untill the propty is settled…. at this point i dont
care anymore…..Victoria you dont know how bad i need this to be over…
MENTALY iit’s killing me
ME: well what needs to be settled? about the property?
Ex: at this point nothing…..
Me: ok then its settled
Ex: i’m just telling you what she told me. Hey Victoria…..
Me: yes
Ex: I just want you to know after looking thought all the crap,
putting it to the side.. there is still a place in my heart for you, not like
lovely lovely… but a careing place.. if you know what i mean
Me: I care about you too
Ex: i have learned alot thought you, i thank you
Me: : ) welcome
Ex: ok i need to go and cry
Me: okie
Ex: niter
Me: nite