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“Why are you taking the blame for you feeling bad about him planning an event without you? Its ok to feel bad about that. I would be pissed. Especially if my time with my guy was limited often because of his issues.

You need to admit that its ok to be upset about it. Not that its going to change the situation or that its going to change him in anyway. If he’s upset that you get upset, he needs to examine why he feels that way. Maybe his own guilt. Its ok for you to be pissed even. Don’t take the blame because it may be your insecurities. Insecurity has nothing to do with it. You are upset because of the lack of time with him. Not because of any insecurity.”

Ok not sure if you are referring to the Friday night out with his friend or planning his trip or both? I was invited to go on the trip first but I could not go, it was a weekend I have my kids. And he wanted to go for a concert so thats the only day for it.

The friday night thing? I dont know how to feel about it. He just said he was going to meet his friend S at his sisters house after work. He just said he was gonna go hang out with him. And Im sure he had no idea what they would do. And we went through stuff like this in the past, where his buddy invites him out and he didnt feel he could invite me cause it was this guys thing. I dont know, I just dont get it I guess? But I can also understand it also.

I guess what Im trying to say is, Im sitting home to damn much, missing out on things, and wishing I had him to share them with, but I dont, so I need to do things and find others for that. And that is where I struggle.

When B and I went to Vegas he said wed hit the clubs, go dancing and all that, then he just said his feet hurt and he was tired, and then that we would go another night, and we never did. 🙁 So its like I want to go and live it up now and then, but he generally just wants to sit and watch movies with me.

Yet at the same time, Im nervous about where to go, since I dont have a lot of experience going to clubs and things and have no idea where to go so i like it when I get invited or where others are or when someone knows where to go and show me around. B new some clubs in Vegas, I didnt, but he just chickened out on it all.

Yet at the same time I think he feels a bit insecure with his abilities to take me places and entertain me? Since there has been this ongoing issue with us about that. I think I just need to have a talk with him about this.

But at the same time, why worry about him and if hes gonna go do that stuff with me? Why not go do it for myself?