Idiot Reply
Dear Diary,
Morning. Well I didnt talk to B at all yesterday afternoon, or eve or before bed. I get all weird feeling when I dont hear a word from him. Just dont know where he is or anything. I do appreciate the calls before bed.
I was a bit frustrated yesterday and calling all over about the dental. I resent the email to ex again yesterday about our youngest childs dental emergency. Well he finally wrote me back just before I was to leave work.
Here was the second letter I wrote him…
“Ex,
I am writing you again. Do the children have any dental? I need this information ASAP. I need to get him in somewhere since the tooth is exposed now. I cannot take him anywhere without the dental. I have to pay cash up front.
I have nothing right now I can barely buy food. You have sent nothing. You havent paid medical in months. The kids are without dental and you havent paid any support this month.
So what are you going to do?”
His reply….
Now please keep in mind he last wrote me that letter saying “Hes gotten HELP and thank you” ok? Remember sounding all nice?
So here is his response…
“Yes, Victoria they do have dental; they have had it all this time! You have the number for the dental. They just donât have my social security number right, but you can still use it. I will have all the numbers for you tomorrow, we have a new HR person so I will go and talk to her tomorrow.
I am going to send you $600.00 tomorrowâ¦..yeah I know the felling about barely buying food. I talked to Health Insurance and made arguments with him about that. The kids are with dental and I can show it.
Thatâs what Iâm going to do about that!”
Ok does anyone even understand why on earth a person like this messes with your HEAD??????????
I have the insurance numbers and have had them all this time?? What the hell? If I had them why on earth would I be writing and doing all this? For pure pleasure of trying to correspond with him? See how he is? How he twists things? He has dangled me on a string with this dental for months. I even wrote the HR department at his work and havent gotten a response from them either. My mother says hes stalling, and I guess inside I still believe “Oh well maybe he does have insurance for them?” my mother just laughs and says “Victoria, we have managed apartments since the 60’s. You hear every excuse, people give you an answer to try and shut you up and stall you another day.”
And then the social security number excuse? I started to laugh later on when I realized that was the issue with the old insurance policy that was dropped. My ex wrote it down wrong on all the paperwork so every time a claim went in things werent matching up and it was rejected. But he says it wasnt his fault as usual.
So on the NEW policy he got it wrong again??? My mom said “OH Victoria, that excuse worked last time, why not use it again? He probably even forgot he used that excuse before, people who continually lie forget what they have last said”
So I did write back and said “Ok please give me the Dental Plan name and account number” notice how his email didnt address that? How they have had dental all this time according to him, yet he doesnt even have that info himself and has to ASK? And I have never receieved any information from him nor the employer as to a dental plan in the mail or email.
Anyways, there is my rant about my ex. He cant just be up front and honest, and he tries to come off talking to me that Im the problem. Idiot.
Went to my attny office but the girl I needed to see went home sick, so will see if she calls today if she is in the office. I have some things to cover.
Just found out my Ex’s cousin had her baby this past week. I had called a family member yesterday for help with dental references since her daughter worked for a dentist. She told me the news of the new baby. This is the family that lives right by the kids school. So I want to go by and take something and say hello and see the baby. So Im thinking maybe on Thursday I will swing by after getting the kids, the weekend will probably bring in out of town relatives to see the baby, and never know if IN Law will show. So best to do it then I think.
I am taking my little guy in today for the X ray to see what they will propose to do about the tooth. So mom will front the cash for that. This part isnt so pricey, its finding out what they will want to do that will be the $$$$.
Went to group yesterday. It was small but that was ok. There is someone there whos ex murdered a man she just started dating after they split. And all that she has gone through and trial. I cant even imagine going through that. 🙁 Just when you think you have been through something awful you hear another story. Its just sickening.
My youngest got 100% on his first spelling test! I was so proud of him! Even his brother came in full of smiles and congrats and gave him a High 5. It was so cute to see, he was truly happy for his little brother. Oldest just got an invite for the weekend for a classmates birthday swim party. He was so excited! So he will have to go, only 2 weeks into school and a party already! And a nice way to meet some of the other families and kids in his class.
I think its very important they have friends to visit with and since we dont live by the school and are in another zone, he can just run over to play with these kids. But I dont mind driving them over.
The other part of me feels my kids wont be staying put in this school. I do not wish to stay here in this town. I just hate pulling them all over the place. So far they are just fine. My oldest has been in 2 schools and had no problems adjusting. And my little guy jumped right in. So neither seem to have any problems. I guess I think of how I was in school. I was shy, and I was fearful without my friends around. Ideally Id like to move as soon as possible. But realistically? I think I need to give it a few years. But who knows? Need legal matters settled for one to even see what will occur with the house.
Then from there have to see what I can afford. And then see what is out there.
Well Im off for now!