Kid Talk

Dear Diary,

Well I had a Divorce talk with the kids Sunday. My therapist had told me I didnt need to have a formal sit down THE TALK with them. She said “Just answer their questions when they ask, dont give them more info then they need. Otherwise explain it once the divorce is finalized.”

So Ive pretty much let it go. So Im watching E Hollywood Stories on Liz Taylor yesterday. My oldest is drawing on the floor, and he keeps hearing the word divorce(from Liz’s marriages haha)So he looks up at me and says “Mom? You and Dad arent divorced right?”

::::vinyl record screech sound::::

My youngest is just heading out the front door to ride bikes and he stops to hear my answer. Uh Oh.

I answered, “No we arent divorced, not yet”

So he said back “Oh good, I dont want my Dad to be divorced, i want him to be my Dad”

Aweee, he thought divorce meant hes not his Dad anymore. So I said “No hun, divorce just means mom and Dad wont be married and live together anymore, but he will always be your dad and that will never stop”

He smiled then said “OHHHHHHH, ok! good” and went back to coloring.

YOungest then pipes up from the corner,”Yeah divorce means you have to get married again” and referred to friends of ours who divorced and the guy got remarried right away to a girl with 3 kids.

haha

I said “No hun, divorce does not mean you have to get married again. You can if you want to, or you live alone” hes all Oh ok, and went off to ride his bike.

Now it wasnt so bad after all? But amazing what divorce meant to them before hand. About an hour later their Dad called, I dont answer the phone anymore, so I went to tell them there dad called and would they like to call him. It has been a week since they spoke, and suprisingly, they both said No, no thanks, later.

Wow,

That was a first.