Sunk Lower Wow

Dear Diary,

Just when you think someone is bad enough. They do something else to top it.

Im going thru some work politics right now, nothing bad on me, but Ive been placed in a awkward position and seeing things in a new light about crookedness of people. And being used in their matters. Im going to have to tackle this with the bosses to get myself out of others peoples stuff they are putting me in.

Onto other things, I turned in the stuff to the Attny Mon morn first thing. They are writing up the order for things that have gone on. So this morning the childrens dentist office calls. Ive been having a big delay waiting my youngest childs last set of dental work, its gone so long the tooth now needs a root canal. So the dentist calls me today saying it was rejected. That they called the dental provider and they said “As of Feb 1st the children and I have been removed from the policy. Only my Ex is on it now” She was apologetic to me. I said “Ok, Im going thru a divorce, he must have done this, thank you” Im beyond getting all freaked out anymore, yeah it pisses me off, but I went to the computer, emailed his work and personal acct telling him this and asking him why? I dont have $500 cash to spend on the dental work. And this is his responsibility and his employer provides it.

So I went to work, afterwards took kids to their childrens group. They said they would cover the issue of teasing specifically for my oldest child. 🙂 Since that has been something hes been dealing with lately.

So while I waited for the kids I called the attny office and asked them about removing the kids from the dental policy and myself. They responded “That is contempt, he was served a paper that says to keep all policies in force, hes not supposed to do that” So she told me to call the dental ins plan myself to confirm it. I did, and they sure enough told me yes it was true. And I got the girls name. So after I hung up I started to think “Why? A month or so ago there was a prob with the ins and he insisted that we were all on the policy still, and talked to me like I was stupid for thinking we were off it? Maybe his work messed up?”

See this is the point where he says “Oh its their fault, I didnt do this, my work messed up or the ins company messed up”

And I started to think “Maybe they did?”

Then I had to remind myself to stop my whole old way of thinking. Always believing in him when I shouldnt. According to the dental ins we have been off it for 2 mos, so he had to have known because he pay stubs show the deductions.

Not long after we got home my Exs relatives stopped by out of the blue. Which was a nice but strange surprise. I do like these relatives and they have ALWAYS been cool to me from the get go. And they have stepped in at one visit when my ex yelled at me on the phone. I could hear his uncle saying “Stoppit, why are you doing this? Why are you making things into a bigger deal then they are???” and they intervened for him on the phone since he couldnt control his anger. They brought cookies by for my kids. I invited them in, they also said they are going to try and put my youngest child into my kids private school. It was nice but awkward. Since my Ex was with them all this past weekend and then they showed up. Its like were they showing up for him? Concern for me and the kids? Who knows? But then they asked about our old computer. Grrrr, I gave it to boyfriend to get a new hard drive for, so the kids can have a computer. So its not here now, and my ex has been on my case over it, wanting to say his relatives will fix it, and wanting it. For some reason Ive found his insistant asking having some other motive. SO his relatives asked to take it, said theyd fix it, I said it was gone I had someone doing it for me. They said ok. And that was pretty much it.

So after my ex calling the house 7 days straight, then telling the kids “Ill call you tues and thursdays” when he dropped them off at my parents. I asked him not to call on Wed, its church nite, but tonite my oldest had a cough. So we stayed home. Ive found it interesting he calls them often on Wed and Sun after 7pm. The nights he KNOWS we arent home. I just wrote him an email last week saying JUST NOT WEDNESDAY. So of course he calls. So I answered. He asked to speak to kids, I said sure but asked if he got the email about the ins. He said “No, I dont have a computer” I didnt pursue that, he has a laptop and he takes it everywhere, for personal and for work. So then Im thinking hmm maybe thats why they wanted the computer?

Then he responds “You are all on the ins” I said “No I called today they confirmed we are not” He said “Ill be in the office on fri and take care of it” I said ok and nothing more. He spoke to the kids. Then asked to speak to me.

I was greeted with

“Are the kids in counseling?”

“What is oldest teachers name?”

“What is the name of his school?”

“I want the name of the counselor?”

” I want the number to speak to them?”

Its a Domestic Violence center and we are NOT allowed to give out that info to our abusers. Its protected. So all I said was “The kids go to a childrens group” and the rest I said “Ill have to ask them” cause to be honest I didnt know what to say.

Ex says “So what is going on with the divorce??”

I reply “I have told you, this is for the attorneys to handle, you have hired one so stop asking me and let them do their job”

Ex “Well Im supposed to be getting papers, and Im not!”

Me “Well then all your attorney I dont know what to tell you”

(My attny mailed him papers on March 14th, they showed me the record of it)

Ex says “Are you claiming the kids for taxes???”

Me “Ive answered all of this before, I told you already, Im not going over all this again with you, we have attorneys for that. I dont want to discuss or fight over this stuff with you, that is why I hired an attorney, because you couldnt work thru anything civily, you go around complaining to people saying “This is gonna cost us to much using attorneys!” Yet you fail to realize you are creating all of this mess and making it happen this way” He sat there for a second, then here comes the kicker…..

“Ok Victoria, tell you what, when you are ready to answer my questions, I will see about this Insurance thing..”

At this point I said “Im going to go now” and hung up.

USING YOUR CHILDRENS DENTAL POLICY AS A BARGAIN TOOL FOR INFO!!!! What the fuck is wrong with him?????

So this tells me he knows we are off, if he was confidant we were on it why would he use that as a bargain chip?

What a bastard, hes digging his own hole more and more everyday, all by himself.

Tomm I will turn all of this into the attny.