Cleaning House

Dear Diary,

Morning.

Trying to get ahold of my oldest sister to see how she is. She gave me an email address, its on AOL. And I logged on to AIM and shes on but idle for 30 min. So I will see if she responds, we have never chatted via the internet before.

My Mom did tell me last night that my sis called her Sunday morning.

She picked up her husband at the airport from his vacation. She said he was very cold to her.

So they were discussing things, he said he didnt have a problem with the business venture( she she and his brother are in the process of starting a business, bro in law already paid the first payment, sis and he went to the training and school out of state, and things are set in motion) So he told my sister he could come and use the office at the house. My sister said No, that she didnt want to come and work there that it would be to uncomfortable for her. I guess he went ballistic at that point. Reason being?? He was wanting my sister to come and “WORK” there, but really to take care of the girls at the same time. So when my sister objected he flipped out.

So my sisters mindset is pretty much this right now……

Hes being totally stupid and irresponsible, my sister has carried the load for the whole relationship with the girls. He just goes to work, spends his money, has fun, buys things, takes trips and now he is saying he is in love with another woman who he has his lunch break with and has already gone out with her while my sister was home with the girls.

So my sister said to my Mom “Im doing okay, I have to look at it this way, its probably better if I move out. I dont loose anything, I gain my freedom, I can find a place, or I can stay with brother or Victoria, it will be okay. My car is paid for and in my name, I have my own bank account, my work will pay for the divorce fees. Also he has more legal say over the girls, and Im not going to be a babysitter”

So if she has to walk away from the girls, she will, not that she wants that, of course not, but she also wont be taken advantage of. She refused to stay in the house on the weekends with them, he can do it, hes the one who wants this, wants the house, wants someone else, and says they are HIS girls.

His birthday was Sunday, I guess my sister was not invited. The oldest daughter refused to go if “Mom” wasnt going” So the 10 yr old was the only one that was going I guess.

Its sad. You know, if my sister has to walk from the girls, the oldest one, who is no blood to my sister or her husband that they are legal guardians over, well she is almost high school. I can just see the husband getting tired of her and my sister ending up with her eventually. Hate to say it….

DOnt know, my sister has always said she would raise those girls, she would take them in a heartbeat. But if hes going to be nasty, shes not gonna be used either.

Yuck ya know?

So B and I talked yesterday, it was an emotional talk for me. He wanted to know where my head was, if I want to stay with him and try and work things out together, he wanted to know how I was doing and all.

I told him i do want to be with him.

He brought over a book, a relationship book with exercises in it! I was shocked needless to say. I always was the one doing that with my Ex, and here he was with his book.

We sat outside yesterday, the weather was so wonderful, I put shorts on and sat out back at the table and worked on my packet of papers for the District Attorney on my ex. B read his book, the dog hung out next to us. Then we just sat, held hands, the birds were chirping, the kids were playing next door, and we just relaxed. We made salmon for dinner and had dark chocolate candy bars for dessert, kids got some Girl Scout Cookies.

B is excited about the trip.

Wow, we leave early friday morning!

My oldest called one of his friends and if hes well tomm is going to go over there for the day so my Mom will drop him off and just have youngest. Ill get him after work.

Little one through a little tantrum on Saturday. I resorted to taking his snack from him and sending him to his room, I left him alone this time, shut his door when he made noise, but I remained calm. He was quiet this time and things smoothed over pretty fast. I was happy about that. Im hoping to curb some of this behavior.

Kids did well on their report cards. Both improved from the first of the year. Oldest had a C- in one subject last time, this time it was up to a B, so all A’s and B’s 🙂 YAY!

I told them both this AM I was proud of them and asking them what do they want to be when they grow up. Oldest was saying “SWAT”

I dream with them, I tell them they can be anything, they also ask me about college alot, talk about it, I didnt when I was a kid, I didnt get college, I wanted out of school, so I never went or talked much or understood it to be honest. NOW I DO. So I talk to my kids about it.

I cleaned up the kitchen and living room pretty good last night while B laid down relaxing. It was nice out, I opened the front door and lit a candle. I vaccuumed up and cleaned up clutter and put things in the garage.

I have a bunch of dishes, chin I want to sell, so was looking at it last night as it fills up some of my kitchen cupboards. I have the china from my marriage to my ex. I got 4 settings. I can get about $80 or so for it from looking on the net. I also have a HUGE set my In Law gave to me also, she didnt want it and was going to get rid of it long ago, so I said Id take it.

Now I dont care to eat on it, I dont need memories of her.

Its just shipping and packaging that stuff out to a buyer I dread, but it will free up some space, give me some needed cash, and also be part of doing away with my OLD life.

I have much to clean out of the house still.

Well gotta go for now..

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