Appreciation Deficit Disorder

Okay! I hit the great part I was reading and laughed over.

A Lover or a Mother?

Although he is a grown man, inside there is a 3 yr old causing Appreciation Deficit Disorder. Whenever you nag it activates this toddler and you have a 30 second windwo before youve activated his “Little Boy Gland”

Never ask a man to do something more then twice or he will feel as though hes being scolded by Mom. And whenever you nag, he will behave like a stubborn teenager and rebel.

A 3 yr old wants to be independent of Mommy, but he also wants to take for granted that she is still right there within his reach. So he tests to see how far he can go. The disobedient little boy wobbles around a corner mischievously and pauses. Then he runs back around the corner to make sure Mommys still right there.

With a grown man, theres one extra step in the middle. After he wobbles off but before he runs back, he will turn over his shoulder to see “What will Mommy do next? Does she nag? Does she panic? Will she chase me? Your reaction determines whether he will take one step closer or another step farther away.

Think about how futile nagging is. It gives him the reassurance that he can continue to be distant and you will still be there. Very little is negotiated with words.

Oh this whole freaking chapter is awesome, but will take time to type! Errrr, I gotta stop here for now, will throw in more later… Comments thoughts? anyone to this stuff?