My Sun and legal Stuff Answered

Dear Diary,

:::Sigh::: I just called my attny office about the bill. Now have to wait for the girl handling my case to call back. I even left my question with the girl at the front desk. So I hope she calls me back. I hate waiting around for answers.

Well Sunday I slept in a little bit. Got up and showered. Had to get my oldest from Moms house by noon and run him to his friends house. Then me and my little one were going out. They had a family fun day here to raise money for the local domestic violence shelter. So a bunch of places were open for free for the day, but you could make a donation and all proceeds went for Domestic Violence. Cool eh? So one of the movie theatres was open for free. My counselor had told me and gave me the flyer since she knew money was short right now and some things I could do. So my little one and I went and saw Scooby Doo. He had seen it already with his Dad, but I hadnt. It was pretty goofy, amusing, but goofy.

There were a lot of large families in there, probably moms who cant normally afford a movie with that many children. But not well mannered. This one mom came in with 6 kids and began to yell LOUDLY at them, and then they were all talking loud during the previews. Me and my little one moved up another row. Well next thing you know a mom with 2 kids come in that are older then mine and they proceed to kick the back of my childs seat over and over and he asked them to stop a few times and the mother did nothing. I was frustrated now. So my kiddo and I moved to the back. Ugh, towards the end of the film once again kids kicking the back of our seats. And all of these kids have parents with them. Grrrrr

We then went by the health food store. I needed some vitamins for the kids, my oldest has been having the sniffles and I was out, so I charged them, hopefully will get the check today from T! I get paid friday! Thank God! Its almost here!

Me and my little one still had 2 hrs till my oldest would get home so I went by my girlfriends house. The One who always wants to sell me stuff. Well I hung out for 2 hours. It was interesting. She talks A LOT. And we got on the talk about God and Religion, which was interesting. She has kept her daughter in the private school where my little one attended preschool and kindergarten. She is now griping about their religious beliefs. And I really dont have patience to hear her whine about it. Why put your kid in then? Its a private church related school, you dont like their beliefs, dont send your kid there. You cant expect them to change, they are following their belief system.

But it was a good talk, about organized religion. About the whole idea of it being based on Fear. And yes, really that is what I went through also. We talked about Christ and how he operated, how he was with people, all his examples are pretty much nothing like the churches today. Really if you behaved, looked, hung out with, etc etc like Jesus did half the churches wouldnt allow him in their doors. Jesus didnt stress dress codes, hair styles, etc etc.

Anyways, it was a good talk. She looks so good. She is only 25. Has 3 children and I swear that girl weighs about 100 pds. Slender and tall, but not sickly skinny. And she is just full of energy.

Our kids were so happy to see eachother also. Its really cute, since they went to school together last year, and were friends prior to school. And her daughter is more of a tomboy so loves playing with boys.

I then headed home. I need to start finding ways to bring my friends back closer into my life, more interaction and doing things, and I also need to find new friends.

I spoke to B on the phone, he got his car running! It still needs a few more things, mainly a new or the carb rebuilt. But he should be able to drive it again very soon. Today his old roomie is picking him up from work. 🙂 Aweee I thought that was sweet, they went out for Sushi last night and he went to her place(his old place) to help her with her computer. So Im glad they got to spend some time together and its not all weird since she asked him to move out.

So I thought it was really cool she will give him a ride home today. I am proud of him for reaching out. He normally doesnt do that, but he has, and he hasnt burdened me with any of it, not that he would, but I almost wished I could help.

As frustrating as it is for me at times I dont get to see him much, I also keep wondering if this is the place I am to be in. That I start to develop my own friendships. I have a hard time being alone, having fun and going out without a GUY. And I think this is a thing Im working on, but still have more to go with. I need to start filling my life with the things that I want, and not expect it to come from a guy in my life. So I wonder at times “God is this where I am to be with B? Am I to learn something here?” I have not complained, whined, griped at B about not seeing him, Ive pretty much left him be, and Im not really even doing much of the calling. I do hear from him each day. He also wrote me an email this AM. 🙂

Well I was laying in bed last night watching the Anna Nicole Show. If any of you watch it or catch a rerun of the episode,, where they take her assitant Kimmy out for her bday to a club in Hollywood. Well at one point they had a male dancer for her. Im sitting there watching and going … “Wait a minute!” haha! Thats the same male dancer I had when me and my girlfriends went out a few mos ago in town! So watch for the brunette male dancer and thats whos oily body I touched and tucked a dollar in his briefs, haha

Oh! Just got the call back from my attny office. She said that my ex called again. And he has signed his attorney out and is now representing himself. So thats why Im billed. Which did make sense now. Because he is the opposing council. I wasnt aware he signed her out and they did bill me for calls to his attny but now he is his own. So I said to her “I just dont want him calling for every piddly little thing and I have to pay for it” But it did make sense since he has signed her out and then they are having to change paperwork and get everything faxed from his attny he is no longer using. She also said she doesnt answer every call, she takes messages on everything so people dont call over every little thing and I get billed. So she said he wants to settle, he and his attorney couldnt agree. Settle on what I really am not sure at this point. I cant see him walking in and being ok with knowing he wont get a dime. I think he really believes he will get money, and hes in a financial hole right now and sees this as his way out. LITTLE DOES HE KNOW!

But with my ex you really never know. So we wait to see if he comes in to settle. And what comes about from this.

I updated all my paperwork yesterday. As of 2002. He has paid me 2 1/2 mos support payments total. WOW. I didnt realize how little he has paid me.

I had to add in around $800 in medical and dental bills for the kids,

And more amounts to the community debts Im paying alone.

And I have it all documented. 🙂 So I will be very well prepared. My attorney said we can go back to get money from before my support order in July. If that is the case, heck, he wont get a dime back for anything and he will still be behind in what he owes me. God I sure hope he gets moving on this. I just am trying to imagine this meeting and trying to settle with him sitting there with me and my attorney. When I present all of this, how will he respond?

And then I can always be shocked with the low % chance he will just want this stuff all over and done with and wont care. Heck the guy cant remarry until hes divorced and done. And hes still in that church, they frown on you dating if you arent divorced yet.

So there ya have it, Please say prayers all that this legal mess will end soon. That it wont be too costly. That I can have his name off the house and be legally divorced from this man.

I laid there in bed last night and thought about how far removed I have become from my old life with him. It is sad yes. But it was the right thing to do. There was no way to reconcile with a man who is a chronic liar and a fake and cannot see what he is or what he is doing to people. He is in his own world.