Pickup Annoyance

Dear Diary,

Well finally heard from my Ex.

He responded and told me he was picking the kids up at their school after it gets out. And to drop their things off at the porch of his Aunt or my Mom.

First off I got pissed off reading it.

Why?

Its when you are in a relationship with a abusive controlling person, everything they do changes. Keep in mind we now have court papers that state his time to pick them up for a weekend visit and where. Time is 7pm on Friday, at my parents or the courthouse parking lot.

I told him he could pick them up there at 6pm so I made it an hour earlier. And my children are in a grant funded after school program and they have to stay there a minimum of 2 hrs( which puts it at 5pm) and then they need to get there things, and plus their backpacks, I want to get them because my older one gets a weekly progress report i have to review and sign for Monday, And well my ex isnt to great on keeping track of things. After the last time I told them their Dad will need to buy them toothbrushes himself for when they see him, because they come back with theirs lost.

So Im sitting here trying to think of the kids. Trying to think of me, and trying to consider the situation. In a healthy situation if we were on good terms and he was acting like an idiot then after school would be fine. But first off he isnt on the card to even sign them out of school. He hasnt been in the state for almost 2 yrs, and I have no idea where he will be living next. And so he cant just take them out. Wed have to make new arrangements and change the cards for the school. And right now I feel a bit more safe and secure having that part limited.

So I told him the earliest I can arrange is 4pm. Which means I have to put in a letter to the program to take them out early and I will pick them up right after I get off work that day. I told him if that will not work for him then we will have to go back to the agreed upon time in the papers of 7pm. Then I repeated. “The children need to be picked up at the agreed upon places in the paperwork”

Thank God I at least have that now!

I called mom and talked to her, I just feel bad at times like am I over reacting. She said “No Victoria, he will always push everything, he does this, he tries pushing the limits and dictating, and he has to realize he cant do that anymore. You give him an inch and you see? And yes I do see. 🙁 It just sucks dealing with this idiotic stuff, but its another lesson in boundaries.

My ex wanted them earlier last time also. Then what does he do the last time? He shows up an hour and a half late???

Bleh!