Stupid Attempt to Talk
Dear Diary,
Well B has the job interview today! I Hope he gets it!
He said he also should be moved out by Sunday.
His mood has perked up, hes been busy packing. He is a little sad to move, I understand, there are nice memories there, and he commented on how he will miss the cats. B is allergic and this one is always trying to sneak in his room any chance he can get. And hes dang sneaky about trying too! And he will come to the door, stick his paw under and just wave it around. It is funny. 🙂
I do not know if I will see him this weekend. He will be moving. So Im thinking it probably wont happen unless he invites us for some specific reason out, Im not going to show up with the kids while hes moving, that would just make it all the more difficult. I do want to get a lot of things done around the house, so maybe this will be just a weekend at home. Ex is supposed to take the kids the following weekend. And if I can afford it I want to leave town and maybe go to San Diego. But we shall see how the $$ situation is.
Well Ex called and left voice mail last nite, to speak to kids but then said he needed to talk to me. So get this. He CLAIMS he got a parking citation on his truck from December last year. And said its WAY out on the west side of town. (Im not talking close to me at all) And theres nothing out there but dirt and desert. And says “You had my truck then, I need to talk to you about this $63” It was ridiculous to just hear. Im like what on earth? And I know how his mind works hed just go on and on about it. So I called back and said “I never drove your truck out there” He said “Well I believe you had it during that time” and to be hoenst i dont recall when he left it here around the holidays. All I said was “I drove it to work, why on earth would I be out there?” He said “Well I wasnt there so Why would I?” I responded “Well I dont know what else to tell you then, there is some error you will have to go investigate at the DMV” and that was it, he asked to talk to the kids. My mom said “Vicky, its just another excuse to make contact with you, what else can he talk to you about?” Its so idiotic? And I have to keep in mind, my ex reads things and OFTEN reads them wrong and makes a total assumption and creates in his head something else. I have witnessed by emails he has written to me. As B puts it “He is delusional. ANd I really can see now that he is. Mom replied “But he has always been that way, now you just can see it” and yes that is true. No wonder I felt I was going crazy!
I couldnt fathom a person just creating false scenarios it didnt make sense to me or something I considered. So I wasnt prepared to recognize or even see it at the time.
SO I said to B, “Um yeah I drove way out to the back end of town at 12 noon and parked his truck along a dirt road and got a parking citation last Dec? And he JUST now got this in the mail? It was all just absurd. My thought is he did get a ticket at LAX when his truck was parked there. It was for not having his license plate on the front. I would guess maybe thats the ticket? But who knows nothing makes sense my ex does or says.
B said “Haha a ticket for not having a license plate on the front but he has his back one on? Thats the kinda ticket you get when you have pissed someone off”
Anyways,
Ex said hes sending me a big check Tuesday and the amount and said he has the kids dental money also. But like I said. I cant believe it until I actually see the money in my hands. I need a check, and then have to wait for it to clear. But if he does pay me it, I will be in shock he has that kinda money. I have no idea where he came up with it if he just lost his job. Perhaps he borrowed from his Mom? Or some family member gave him a loan? Ha! Good luck on ever getting anything back.
Its amazing for me to think back on how much I took care of everything. My Ex was 18 when I met him. He lived with his Gpa, slept on the couch of his place. Drove his gpas truck, worked for his gpa who paid under the table. All ex had to pay for was gas, and clothes or having fun. They fed him or he spent some money on fast food. Ugh, why am I typing about this? To sum it up I took over the finances 2 mos prior to the marriage. Straightened out his credit messes. A bill was never paid late again. We had excellent credit, he just got a new truck and we bought a house the year before we split up. And all of the credit card/loan debt would have been paid off in a year.
Im doing ok. I managed to protect myself and get everything in order on my own. But I am aware he is financially in a mess, and he did admit to me when we were talking of getting back together that he had more debt than we ever had together. Wow in the matter of a year. He had just shot it all to pieces.
It is a good thing, he has to learn, whether he will or not who knows?
Well Im off for now