Disgust

Dear Diary,

I dont really recall what my whole last entry said so if I repeat myself, oh well. Basically I filed for legal separation Jan 2001. Retained an attorney around March 2001. They never established a support order for me. Why? I dont know to be honest. I had no clue how this process worked. Just thought as long as I filed I was entitled to be paid from that point. NOPE.

My OLD attny failed to serve a restraining order Sept 2001. Which would have given me full custody and the house. When my ex called to threaten me nobody there handled my complaints and remedied them. I had to call the office constantly trying to find out what was going on and when things were getting served and constantly giving them addresses or telling them when he was here.

I made a stink in early 2002 with the office because nobody was telling me anything and I had no clue what was going on.

My attny has a meeting with me apologizing saying hes not sure what has happened and why I fell thru the cracks. He kept reassuring me that we would get all the money back ex owed me in the past in the end. I kept telling them he wasnt paying me. So why the hell didnt they file a support order???

I was told that they file it retroactive. Well find out HE DIDNT. So basically as of JUNE 2002. Anything Prior, well IM SHIT OUTTA LUCK.

So that was why I was pissed off an angry. The paralegal at the old attnys office repeatedly lied to me telling me things were being done. And then found out Monday they never did put in a wage assignment. I CALLED 3 TIMES and was told it was submitted to the courts!!!!!!!!!!!!

So my new attny HAND DELIVERED it MONDAY for me.

So I called my sis upset and shes all “Victoria I went through this with my divorce. You dont need an attorney for that area. Take this as something to pass on to others. Your attorney basically just took your money and did shit for you. Tell people to go straight to the DA themselves. It costs you NOTHING and they will find them and serve them also.”

I dont know if I have any recourse. I plan to write a letter to my old attorney full of complaints and a friend gave me info to report to the State Bar. Its just I have nothing in writing. It was all phone calls and promises. 🙁 So not sure what I can do but my new attorney staff looks at my folder every time I go in and shake their heads every damn time Im there at how I was handled. I WASNT TAKEN CARE OF. I was basically SCREWED worse by this past one.

So yeah it makes a person angry when they shell out $2500 for a person who screwed you more then before you hired them. And you put your trust in them to take care of you.

Next topic….

I have been asking B daily about the hotels for Vegas. He still didnt know yesterday. So I said “Ok are you going for sure?” and he said “Well if you want a definite in stone answer from me NO. I cant promise you that. It depends on money. So if you want an answer now, NO Im not going.”

I dont get him at all. When I first asked him he said yes, then he starts asking me if we want to fly to Vegas. I say Ill drive. It will be cheaper. I can drive 4 hours no big deal. Then he talks about finding us rooms through his work, then this past weekend he brings a casino game program and says that way we can have some fun and do some gambling when we are there and wants me to learn these games.

So am I missing something here? Wouldnt you take that as a sign of someone who is going with you????

So I told him “Listen I have to make plans soon. Cause if I just wait for you I screw myself and may not be able to get a decent room where Id like at a decent price and also I can find someone else who wants to go and share the cost” I said “Do you understand? I planning this around waiting on You and I am not going to wait till the end and put myself out” he got quiet. He said he was tired. He just seemed strange to me, he said he was just tired.

He said he isnt sure if he will have his rent during the convo. Which is FINE. Tell me that, but something about him and this type of stuff is weird. Ive been through this before. I said “I dont get it with you, its like you cant commit to doing things or making plans” he said it was all about money. So why on earth say you are going to go and hype it up then drop the bomb? I asked him things like how much does he need, or questions like that. Im very open with my situation, Im broke right now, get paid in another week and will be able to use a portion of my check for the trip. B said “Well we have to eat you know and to do things in Vegas, Vegas isnt cheap” I said “B I dont have to gamble”

I guess my thoughts are like this. Get a $40 room( which yes I found some) We split the cost for 2 nites. Heck I dont care if we spend all day in bed in the hotel room together. That sounds fun to me, and use a hotel pool and swim. Ill eat at fast food or pack some things to bring along. I think Im good at cheap trips. Cause I can work within my means.

So he just went to bed last night. The call was strange. Its like hes so close to me when hes here with me, and when he leaves hes so distant. I dont get him.

I talked with Mr Music Producer. He said Take me! haha I said Well i just might! So I gotta call Mom today to discuss the sitter situation, then go from there finding a hotel. I guess Im curious to see if B says anything after that call last night.

I called my old group moderator. I wasnt sure if it was cool to call since he no longer works for the place. But I just left a message. And he called! He said he was so glad to hear from me and in a round about way said I can call him whatever I want now. Acquaintance, Friend, etc and said he can go out for lunch with me sometime. Its funny cause he doesnt come out and say things but says them in a way as he is allowed to do things as long as I invite him. Not sure how policies apply once a person has left a job with people they had in their classes. So I said I would call him sometime soon and we can catch up over lunch. I did share how my last court went over the kids and he was happy to hear something positive happened for me.

I also called my girlfriend who moved to Florida. She is sooo lonely right now and doesnt know how to meet others. She has been trying to find mommy play groups for her and her kids, she only found some MOPS programs in local churches but she said the area is so big they have Waiting lists for the groups. She kept telling me “Move here! Come be with me!”

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Well Im off, I need to fill my heart and mind back up with some encouraging and positive things since yesterday was a real downer, and put me back in the old feelings I was in for so long.