Rest of C Chat

Mr C: you still there?

Me: yes

Mr C: did I do something wrong here?

Me: No why?

Mr C: is it wrong for me to feel and express my frustration?

Me: no its not

Mr C: Anythng else to add before I sign off?

Me: Dont make assumptions and dont take things personally, its not

all about You,

Me: you are a wonderful man

Mr C: It’s NEVER about me… It’s always been ~ she’s not available

cause she still hasn’t gotten over him… I’m

Me: hmm

Mr C: I wasn’t ready for this

This was the last of the chat, he came back a bit later and started talking again then said this and logged off.

Thanks Jen for the comment.

I do not have a problem with him being hurt or sad. Its understandable.

And if we cannot be friends I understand that also. I am just learning to communicate better and more clearly with people. And not assume things after all my book reading.

On Sunday night when Mr C drove me home I said to him “I think you are over your B, you are farther along then I am, I still have feelings” and he stopped and looked at me and said we are going thru the same thing and he totally understands. I was like Wow, and I said thank you for sharing that, and that its cool. Cause I could relate. He said “You can?” and he kissed the back of my hand and said “You have no idea how much that means hearing you saying that” So Im not really sure what that whole convo was about if we were even on the same page???

And when he met up with his ex about 2 weeks ago I understood going in that he may want to try things again with her. He still cares for her. So I prepped myself in my mind that he may go and try that and it was ok. But his situation went differently, she was unwilling to say what changes would be made, when questioned he said she walked away and refused to answer. B on the other hand stepped up to the plate, we had a good out and out talk, he said that things needed to change and we discussed clearly how.

I told Mr C a week before this that I wanted to draw a line physically, that we could hang out and do things as friends, I told him how I felt about B and I thought he would just kinda back of there, but he was the one who said “Victoria, you arent losing me, its ok, just be honest with me”

So see my confusion? I told B more about him, he said “Victoria, hes trying to back door you” I said hmm whats that mean? He said “Your going thru a bad time, your boyfriend is being a jerk, and here he comes being the knight in shining armor waiting for you each time Im a jerk and is ready to take you off and ride into the sunset with you”

I know Mr C cares for me, I dont doubt that and we had some great times together. I also understand if this is the end of the road and that is all. I will accept and be ok with that.

I also learned that he is pouty, he admitted this himself, and he has a lot of younger female friends. Like around 20 yr olds and his ex, Ive watched how they all use guilt trips on him. Ive seen this twice now, and its weird to watch because they can get to him, me Im beyond that type of thing, I can spot it right away. So I dont feed into it. And ive noticed him doing things to try and get me to respond. And I dont, but that is a good thing, Im learning to handle things more maturely, and that is a good feeling.