Bleh Phonecall

Dear Diary,

Well Im emotionally drained. The thing with Mr Comedy kind of hurt. I had told him I was with someone and he was the one who said SO? And wanted to be friends. I noticed hes been talking about sex lately, not saying having sex with me but just say the lack of sex life. So today I talked with him, and I guess it just made me feel like he was looking for sex and I told him Im commited to a person in that department. He said he could not handle another platonic relationship, that it sucks. So theres that.

Then the kids spoke to Daddy, and yes I did also, he wanted to talk to me. We must have spoke for an hour. A bunch of things. Its hard to stay on subject with him. Thats mainly why Im drained. We spoke in great detail about his mother. He said he feels caught in the middle. And I said “You have always had an issue with your mother since the day I was with you, why all the sudden are you putting how she feels before the mother of your kids and your childrens best interest?” It just felt like we went around and around. Him making threats that his mom is joining him on a Lawsuit against me. That his mothers roomate has checked out ok according to reports. All this weird bizzare stuff??

He kept saying “What is it you want?” I said “All we had ever discussed was that the kids not be left alone with your mom or her roomate. He says they are ok around his mom without one of us present. Yet he isnt saying the kids are sexually acting out, then he was, then saying it was because of something from some neighbor girls last year. Actually looking back in my mind the conversation makes no sense. I said “I really dont understand why this is going on” He said that he feels Im keeping his mom away from the kids and she feels she wont get to see them anymore. Im like “Hello? I didnt start any of this? Who is the one whos drove the kids to and from her place? Who let her take them for 3 hours in May this year? I DID! The only point I stopped contact was when she refused to respect my wishes and said she will talk to the kids about our divorce when I asked her not too and she once again said “Your kids are sexually acting out” What mother would want there kids around such a person????

So I said to him again. I just dont understand what she is doing?? And my attorney, the old one said the whole scenario is fishy. And my mother thinks shes trying to cover something. But what??? I told Ex, Why would your mother call me at work and ask me if the kids cant come over due to sexual reasons?? When I never ever made an accusation of that nature? Wouldnt you find that strange?

I said “There are no grandparents rights”

He said he was aware. so Im like why are you doing all this? We are supposed to be thinking of the kids best interest. Your mother is not. He kept asking me to call and talk to her. To be honest, I dont want to, I contemplated it, but something is strange about all of this and I simply do NOT trust her. And Id rather talk with my attorney about all of this.

Ex said he mailed me a check, asked if I got it. I havent. Is he really sending me one? He does this. Calls and asks if Ive gotten something and just does it to make me think he has. But I guess part of me wants to believe him?

We had a few lulls in our convo. I was crying he was quiet. He said “Why are you crying?” I said “Because this is hard” He said “What you thought it would be easy?” I said “No, I didnt say that, Im just telling you why I was crying you asked” He said “Ok” I said Id see him at mediation. He said No i wont we will be in separate rooms. I said Ok. Then he said “Just prepare to put your boxing gloves on over the house” I said “Dont even start that conversation” He also said that his woman is not a liar, That they werent “together” until that Night after I saw her. Oh like that really matters? I said if you and her were talking as you said then there was no reason for her to ask me about the children and your involvement with them and about my personal life” He said that wasnt true, So I told him her cousin has a big mouth and leaked the news. And ex said “Oh so your going to listen to gossip?” I just had to jump out of the convo from that point on. Its just stupid.

I really do not know what to think or feel about my in law, I just dont get what is going on and why SHE is creating all this. I told Ex “Listen we didnt have all this trouble, until your Mom started this” he just kept saying hes caught in the middle. I told him its time to take a stand for his kids best interest. And I told him I was in shock he was saying she was ok for the kids.

He also told me my oldest is very angry and bossy during his visits with his Dad. I said “Well how do you expect him to feel? He rarely sees you? And he has seen you yell at me before visitations, how do you expect him to act?” I told hima bout the court class I attended and what they told us about children acting out. That if he and his mother think those kids will be angels in a place they rarely go to and a person they hardly see anymore, you cannot expect them to be perfect. They are confused.

Bleh