Help!? Legal Question Anyone?

Dear Diary,

Well I have gotten some more feedback about the phone call my ex made to my attny office. He spoke with the paralegal who handles my case. So I have to wait till Monday to ask questions about this further.

But basically I spoke to others about this. I even called the attny office and said “Hello, Im a client here, my ex phoned here, he already has his own attorney, but spoke to my paralegal. I then in turned got billed for his call, is this the way its supposed to work” She didnt really know how to answer, she said it depended on the call. But I was told by someone else that my attorney is paid to represent me, and that the woman speaking to him was her perrogative, but she should have referred him to speak to his legal counsel and not mine. She also said I should ask that they send the bill to my ex and not to me. Then she said “Call her back monday, discuss it with her, and if you are not satisfied with her way of handling I want you to refer it to ******” I said ok thank you. I also know who the woman was on the phone. 🙂 She worked for my old attorney and did my restraining order paperwork. But then she quit working for him. So she was gone from my case early on. But she was the one who saw how abusive my ex was and urged me to not let him get away with things. So she is the one who I will have to go to if Im not happy with the way my paralegal handles it.

I also remembered my ex called my old attorney once. And he griped one day at me saying “Its $100 to call your attorney to talk! Im not calling him again!” So they must have sent him a bill? And my ex never called again. And this attorney referred me to this one, and so my friend said to ask my new attny about why did this attny handle it that way and bill him? And why am i getting billed.

Ugh, so much stuff to figure out, but hey if I can get around paying this $30. GREAT! I also said “Can I ask that no more calls be accepted?” She said “Oh yes!” So monday I will address all this and see what happens.

Spoke to B on the phone before bed last night. Dont know when I will see him again. 🙁 He is having problems coordinating times to work on his car since his hours and the mechanic friends conflict. We both vented our frustrations with both our situations. We feel much the same in what we are going through. Stuck, Catch 22 situations. He has a great job now, but no car, he needs to get the car fixed, but not time to take it in, he can avoid paying labor which would be expensive if he does it with his mechanic friend, but then his hours conflict, he has to wait till his next paycheck, he will have to put a hold on his weekend job, etc etc

AHHHHHH!

So its like we are both in this WAIT place. I DONT LIKE WAITING. Can u tell? I want to go forward, I want to devise a plan to go forward, waiting is tough for me, but I think its my option for now. I have to sit down and work on a full fledged budget. I started writing out how to deduct my mortgage out of 2 paychecks and how much to put aside, but I need to do this with some other bills and get myself for now on a strict budget. It wasnt that I was really blowing money before. I just have things that add up at times, and I dont have enough set aside because Im paycheck to paycheck living. And with no additional help in almost 4 mos now its hurting. So Ill be ok, I need to chill out. I have $50 on its way, a number to call to see about getting some food also. And I will inquire about food stamps some day when I have time to get over there!

It will be ok Victoria, Dont panic, its not that bad.

:::Deep breathe:::

Talked to Music Dude this AM some, I still find it difficult. 🙁 He says hes met this chick hes really into and called her a Rock Star. He keeps asking me whats up with B. Why talk about people in our lives to eachother? Its too weird now for me. I wish in a way we could have stayed where we were. I do like him. And I guess thats what makes it hard to listen to him. Not that Im free to date him, but its still awkward. But I just feel like I was there to take up some time, and he doesnt even think much about our time we spent together, or that Im just some other girl passing through. Why do I do this to myself. Not think highly. Heck the guy still talks to me as a friend and hasnt elimanated me. Its just weird I guess for me. Ill deal though. Its just damn personal feelings got in the way a little and Im trying to step back into the friend mode.

I also saw the mom who I took to the hospital a few weeks ago with her kids( if you recall, if not go back about 4 weeks to a weekend entry about it)

Anyways she said her sisters took her kids and hid them from her for 4 days. She said they called social services and told them she wasnt ok, and abused her kids, etc. She said that her doctor got in trouble for prescribing her Adavan? not sure if thats the spelling. It was for anxiety but it also made her sleep and not able to wake up especially unsafe being a mother of 2 kids. So she said she is on no meds now. She got her kids back. And she has cut off her family.

I just listened to her. I dont totally believe her to be honest. Social Services were called because she was wandering around with her children and not coherent or able to care for them. The sisters got the kids while she was in the hospital after I dropped her off. The younger sister told me “She has had these episodes before, we keep telling her shes gotta get her act together or shes gonna loose her kids” And the sis informed me services were coming over to see about the sisters place, the sis also said she couldnt Stay with her kids but they released them to family and evaluation was going to occur.

So its sad. I really dont think her story is accurate. I believe she is sick and needs major help. But her kids are back with her, and she asked me to call her. So I will sometime.

Later