Dang Him

Dear Diary,

Yep, the wonderful ex again.

See, since the divorce, he has pretty much taken the kids when is supposed to. Every other weekend, and then when they are off track we are to alternate that.

Well this time hes flaking on me, and my mom says she will care for my oldest for 4 weeks, but then their is easter break too and little one is off a week and the paperwork its ex’s week to have them for Easter Break, so I wrote and told him.

I basically got back ….

“
Vicky,
i really have no money to keep them all week and i cant aford a
setter. I
dont know what to do…. I would really like to have them but they are
not
going to have an easter here. I dont know what to do. any sugestions?”

He pulled this crap at christmas the last 2 years and I got the kids a day or so early and they didnt spend Christmas eve with their Dad. They keep saying each year they want to spend it with their Dad and be their longer. And they dont understand their Dad cut it short and tell me “Mom, I want to stay longer with Dad” and Ive been telling them “Daddy said he couldnt keep you thats why you came home earlier”

So its like oldest calls his dad all t he time, called him to ask if he can stay and watch him. And now Ex is just blaming me first off for not telling him their school schedule (Ive told him many times to call the school himself, go get a calendar himself, h e has all that access also) But he just blames me as usual.

Anyways, its just been worse, he last paid me $50 for child support the first week of Dec. Nothing since.

Hes also not helped with any medical/dental expenses hes to pay half of.

Yet hes crying hes broke and has no money yet renting a room out of this brand new 2 story house, owns 4 junker vehicles( he manages to keep buying another!) Hes smoking cigars, buying video games and movies, and then cries telling the kids he can hardly buy them food. He didnt attend youngest childs gymnastics event that he rehearsed for all week and last weekend i drove out and got youngest and kept him all the day then took him back to ex’s.

Its like on one level you dont want to enable him to depend on me, yet on the other foot you feel for the kids. I didnt want youngest to miss the program, he rehearsed for it, paid his own money to join, you know?

Anyways, its like he cries he cant afford them or a sitter, and its like WHAT THE HELL!??? I have them pretty much the bulk of the time and I never get to just say “Sorry kids I can have you now” Even if Im low on money etc, I have never gotten a free ride from seeing my kids or all that. You make due. You sacrifice, you get help, you do what you have to do for your kids.

And hes just excusing paying child support cause my boyfriend moved in and feels justified now not to pay for his kids?

Its just sickening.

Hes didnt give youngest anything for his bday, yet is telling both kids hes taking them to Universal studios and buying them an X box? Yet saying he cant afford them for one week.

Its messed up!