When it Rains, It POURS

Dear Diary,

So B calls me today, invites me over to his old place in the town nearby to hang out with him and his buddy, kids invited, just bbqing fish and stuff.

Told him I wasnt sure, would wait to see how the kids are when they return and stuff I needed to get done.

Ex calls as I was to get them at 3pm. He calls about 2:30 asks if I can pick them up at his aunt’s store in 45 min. I said okay. Well he calls again and asks if I will meet him at Walmart, and the kids need shoes and rambles on about how he has no money(yes the guy who doesnt pay child support)

So Im just happy hes going to get the shoes as I was going to have to take oldest tonight to get new shoes for school tomm.

I said i needed to go and get some Drano, he said hed buy it for me. As most of my friends know here hes been pretty nice as of late at the drop offs.

So I get the kids, everything is going cool, they load up and get in the vehicle and ex says “Vicky, can the kids have a time with my Mom online to chat Monday evenings?” I just glared at him.

I said No. He then says “Your hurting your children, you cant keep them from their Grandma”

WHAT THE FUCK????????????????

I looked at him and said “Im not keeping them from her, they can talk to her when they are with you, that is your job for them to see or talk to her, not mine, you know what happened and why I dont talk to her, She has never sought to make it right or apologized. Ive not heard a word from her.”

He says “Well she hasnt heard from you either” Whatever/???? I confronted her on talking about divorce issues with the kids that were inappropriate and asked her to stop and she refused, This all happened during the divorce and was covered. She also said the kids were sexually acting out and that she and my ex were taking me to court and all sorts of weird crap. That they just threatened and when the day of court came they did ZILCH and my attny was all WHAT???? I switched attorneys because of his Mom to get a Child Advocate attny cause I thought I was going on trial and for evaluations and was more then willing to go there if need be cause the stuff was bullshit.

Anyways, I just stopped talking to him and got in my vehicle. I was pissed off.

I phoned him at a gas station while I gassed up and told him he had a whole lot of nerve telling me Im hurting the children and on and on when he doesnt pay to even take care of them and my employers pay their health insurance and what he was saying was BULLSHIT. So what does he say? “Yeah well when we were married you were running around having affairs on me….” I hung up.

WHAT THE FUCK IS HIS PROB???

I called back with a voice mail after I got home, told him this was inappropriate, that we are divorced and that he had better stop bringing up our issues and if he has a problem with things get an attny and we can go to court to discuss it, Im not dealing with this stupid bullshit. See he gets nice, I let my guard down and then WHAMMO he throws a punch out of left field.

He left some voice mail on my phone telling me “Vicky, if you want to talk about respect, then when we were married and I asked you not to go out you didnt listen, so you should watch your mouth before you judge others”

LOL WHAT THE>???? Its like hes all over the place, Im not sure what his point is in all of this, but as I recall the day talking to the Triple A dude about our ex’s and I said I have to watch how nice I am because it gives my ex the wrong idea he said “Ahhh, so hes not over you”

And well, why on earth is he throwing out this bullshit now? What for?

Hes certainly not concerned about the kids like he claimed. So why now? Why start this?

Jackass

Thanks for reminding me to stay on guard EX.

Anyways, just home now and that riled me up some emotionally. I cried a little, just more of a frustration type of cry.

Reminded me of what a jackass I was married to. And Why I am no longer.

And hes supposedly back in church, damn is he gonna start that stupid judgemental, self righteous talk again? He was just so back to his old reasoning today.

The last few times the kids have asked him, and they have done it in front of me “How is other Grandma?” Ex replies “I dont know, havent talked to her” or when Ive asked him about his Mom he says “I dont talk to my mom, you know how that goes”

Gotta phone call, write more later…