Flea Market/Money Stuff

Dear Diary,

So yesterday we went to the flea market. My main goal was to find items to sell. Scour the junk for things I know of value. Thats what I do for a living and for a hobby at home.

The things I sell are getting harder and harder to find, people have caught on, there was a time when it was no prob, and you could get stuff cheap, now its scarce and people know its worth so they want more for a used dirty item, that is not worth it half the time, after I clean it up and resell it the profit is minimal or nothing. So I turned down a lot of things I just wanted to laugh at prices for. Heck every dang toy and dirty doll or stuffed animal was $5 each.

Guess I need to hit the yard sales again, my best deal of the day was from a little girl who sold me the ONE toy I was looking for, for 50 cents! My kinda deal!

Anyways, they had a car show there with old restored cars and things also we looked at. B just looked knives and the cars, not much else really was he interested in. He made a remark as we were doing errands later in the day that he found it funny that he goes around and looks at everything with me, but I take off and dont stick around with what he was looking at. Im all “Did you want me to look with you?” Hes all “No, its okay, I was just making an observation”

???????????

Then why tell me that? I didnt take it as a nice comment totally, I mean why did he point it out then?

I dont get men sometimes, hes all “Your just all on your mission and when I stopped to look at something you were off way down the row”

ERRRRRRRRRRRR

I would look through every dang booth if I could, but felt bad as I knew it was boring to him, when he found a booth, I covered almost a whole row, thought hed appreciate it instead of tagging along to each booth I went to.

Anyways, I admit, he gets long winded and boring at times. Not that everything I talk about is thrilling. But he does listen to me. I dont know how to explain him, but he went off on some tirade on what tools would be needed to cut metal and how one would do it, while Im in the midst of shopping and I ran into D’s husband and am talking to him and hes going over to find D and said hed be right back. B is all yapping on some long speech and mechanics of machines n stuff, Like right there smack in the isle of the swap meet.

Its like FINE! I asked a question, saying I think it would be cool to do iron work, how thats in right now, people decorating with metal, iron pieces, etc, I love that stuff. But hes all on some tirade about the ins and out of the machine to do it, the settings, etc. And he wont stop talking, its as if he wants you to just stand there and stare at him for 10 min or so as he goes on and on. Its just a personality clash, I dont mind hearing about things, but he goes on too long, too detailed, and he doesnt just do this to me, Ive watched him do it to others. People just turn their heads, or stop talking to him.

Anyways, another thing we discussed this weekend, was credit. He has no credit, he called to try and get a credit card through his credit union hes banked at for 11 yrs. They turned him down, said he was too much of a risk. He got all pissed, saying hes kept money in their bank all this time, hes not even asking for a big limit, like $250, just something small to get him establishing credit. They said his credit report is blank except for one collection( for a phone bill years ago)

Anyways, he was getting all bent out of shape. Going on another long tirade speech of how he was pissed at the bank. I know his other phone bill is sitting on the dresser in my bedroom from his old place. Hes going to have another late payment. Hes not paid it yet, Hes still not paid his registration on the Jeep or called my insurance agent.

This stuff matters to me, I have good credit, I got out my last credit report in 2002 which my score has gone up since, back then it was 632. Ive since refinanced my home loan, opened 3 new credit cards and paid them off steadily. So he said my score should now be higher, I guess the highest is around 800 or so B said.

I dont have late bills and all that stuff, no collections, nothing.

B on the other hand has nothing credit wise, but a good income.

So its just with us talking about new homes etc,

Hes got money, hes paying me his half of the bills, but why isnt he paying his stuff? Why is he putting it off?

This crap reminds me of my ex husband, as long as I was there to manage the money things got paid, otherwise he forgot.

Except the problem with my ex was he DID have credit and abused it, but I have no idea how B would be with credit at this rate with simple things of his own not paid.

Hes griping about his credit, while an overdue phone bill sits, that stuff does go on your payment history???? Guess Ill just have to outright confront him on it.

I dont get it.

Anyways, other then that stuff things are going well. Just more issues one sees being together, quirks, personality, etc.

The sign went down next door, I met a man yesterday, he bought the house but it will be a rental, so hes going to be fixing it up some, then will see who he ends up renting too, heres hoping for kids!

My kids came back from their Dads. First off Ex left me $200! So I called and made his dental cleaning, xrays, appt. $191 cash! for his appt since we dont have dental ins.

Ex also bought the kids new shoes! Vans. and 2 Vans shirts each. I was all “Hmmm whats up with this? Someone has come upon some money?” Hes been taking the kids to his Uncles the past 2 weekends, they said that they are going there again next weekend. Hes working on his Uncles gyms. So the kids really arent seeing him much. I asked them who watched them, two aunts did.

Aunt D is cool, I havent seen her in so long, they send me cards still at the holidays, but would be nice to see them. Aunt L was also there, the kids said she told them to tell me HI. Which I was a little shocked about, shes the only aunt that seemed strange around me after the split with ex the few times I saw her. And I always like her when I was with my ex.

Anyways, my youngest blurts out all the sudden at my moms house when Im picking them up “Mom, is it true you used to spend time and have fun and do things with our other Grandma?” I said yes?” Wondering where that came from and my mom and I looked at eachother. Little one said “Then you separated?” Im all “Who? Me and your Dad?”

anyways, he kinda trailed off, so later we had a discussion just the three of us. I told the kids stuff I have never said or mentioned. I dont say things unless it comes up and I feel its the right time.

Ive not told them much about their other Grandma, why I dont talk to her, why we dont visit, what happened.

So I said “Yes I used to see other Grandma alot, I used to talk to her all the time and go visit, do you remember?” Oldest said yes, youngest said No. I told him how she was there when he was born. But when she got her lady roomate she stopped coming to stay with us.

And then i told them when Dad and I were not together anymore she wasnt so nice to me. And then I told him. I said “Hun, Grandma said that you said you and your brother kiss pee pees” your last visit there. Little one said “EWWWWWWW” I said “Yeah hun, I talked to Dad about it, Dad was there, he said nothing bad happened and ignored his Mom, Mommy was all worried, a lot of things were happening, then Dad changed his mind and said You said those things and it was because of Me and B” Little one was all ????? What? I said “So see, I would have had to take you guys to drs, and into court for the things she was saying.

Little one said “I dont understand, shes always nice when we talk to her” I said “Hun, shes not a bad person, she just has some problems, and Im your parent and my job is to protect you” I told them they can see her, but thats up to their Dad to take them to visit, and that they cant be left alone with her, she cant babysit, that Dad has to be there, and that its in our court papers”

So yep, I said some of it, I am not sure if ANY of the rest of the family even knows what happened with my Ex MIL, I went through hell during that time. I also reminded the kids, who then did remember her surprise visit to our home about 3 yrs ago, and I let her take the kids to McDonalds, and they came home asking me about court, court procedures, child support, I was PISSED! They were like 6 and 8 then! What on earth was this women doing. Me and my ex kept our divorce stuff between us, then she goes and tells them all this stuff on this brief pop in surprise visit. I called her after she left and confronted her, asked her why she did that. Explained about the parent classes the courts offer and what is appropriate to say, what my therapist advised, that my ex and I were the parents, and we would decide what we tell them. That the kids need not need to hear about judges, and how our money was divided and all. I basically asked her not to discuss such things with the kids, she refused. I was stunned, so I dont even know I ended the call, I think I just said Bye and hung up and never spoke to her again. My ex has brought it up, said his Mom was out of line and that she was sorry, yada yada, but I have never heard a word from her, And Im not pursuing that. I have a good look at that woman now after the split,s eeing how she was not a help, but a manipulator, an enabler of people being sick and needy of her attention.

Anyways, their Dad will tell the kids things, but not give them the whole story, so I often times fill in the other side for them as they come home asking me about things.

Its funny, oldest asked where B was when I picked them up, he asked if he was playing his video game, etc etc. They know B, they ask about him. 🙂 Aweeeee

Ok I gotta scoot for a bit,,, later