Moving & Death

Dear Diary,

Morning.

🙂

Ahhhh, I work only half day today, the Dentist called and had an opening so Im taking it as Im overdue for a cleaning, plus I chipped a back tooth a few mos back and want to have them take a look at it as I cant see it as its in the back and its annoying as food seems to get caught in it.

Soooo,

I want to start with the end of the eve first but feel best to put things in order…

Work yesterday, came home, was changing for the gym and just decided to start a little painting before I left, well that turned into almost an hour and a half. I painted my bedroom door, door to living room, youngest childs door. YAY! I did put one coat on the bathroom( all 4 doors face the hallway) but then had enough, then did some touching up. I basically have to paint the section behind the cupboards white and not the molten bronze color, which requires the tape and I also have so much dang scraping/sanding to do.

My ex slapped one coat of paint hurridly on all this area when we moved in, but didnt smooth out parts where there was drywall overspray and such. So theres all these little chunkies that Im scraping off, some parts are worse then others.

But then I have to smooth out the sections Ive scraped up.

So last night I put all the knobs back on my cupboards! YAY, well still have a few more to put back but its for the water heater closet and another cupboard.

Ahhh, its coming along, slowly but surely, dang of all spaces this hall has taken so dang long to do! Its because of all the weird small spots, 4 door jams and doors, the wall heater, etc etc, so much to navigate around and spots a roller doesnt fit.

My mom came by and gave me a positive remark, I thought shed hate the bronze wall color but she said with the white it is really pretty, mom is a typical, paint all your walls white kinda person.

I called the trash co yesterday, they are picking up two oversized items for me on Friday. YAY!

Then I posted an ad for a few items on a internet site to sell. I got an email about my stairmaster. YAY! I just want to get rid of it, I am selling it for $20, she said she could come get it next thurs, will see if that pans out or not.

So after painting I got online to yahoo and wanted to play that word game again, B was on so we jumped right into playing again. haha…

I kicked his behind!

But it was a close game that time.

I then invited B out, he took me up on the offer, said hed leave a little later though. So I headed off to the gym, Cute Gym Guy was still there! I went later then usual. I got on the treadmill and he came walking out to leave, waved, I waived, and he left.

In walks the dude that asked me out awhile back, ewwww. Gosh Im terrible, hes just skinny, totally bald( and not one of those guys who has a good bald head look) And he thought it was fate as he told me that I told him his car lights were on and that I worked in film(he loves film) He gave me his card, asked about doing something, I told him I was already seeing someone in the gym back then.

ive seen him a time or two since, hes said hi, hes nervous, kinda dorky, I mean he seems nice and all. Its just so not attractive. I mean in some ways you can see how just a more confidant personality is appealing, despite looks.

As I left the gym and go to my Jeep there is a Yu Gi Oh card tucked in the window. And I just smiled and thought how sweet Cute Gym Guy can be. He thinks of my kids and brought a card he found for them.

I then went home, and got to work on my front lawn, I mowed it, raked, trimmed some of the plants back, raked the side of the house, watered, moved some stuff around in the garage and when I moved the mattress I found a huge Black widow and about 4 eggs! Ewwww! Took care of all those!

I so cant wait to get this garage cleaned out!

After that I went back in and started up painting again. Put another coat on all the doors. Started a bath, and B arrived while I was in the hall painting. It was about 9pm. I just finished up, I didnt eat dinner, he hadnt either and I said “Lets go out” he was game, YAY. So we went to Chilis, it was just nice to get out later in the eve with no obligations of kids.

B was talkative, about his moving situation. His roomate was leaving at 2am this morning. 🙁 Hes moving to FL, the guy was cool, he was Brazilian, super friendly, was into Kyacking and deep see fishing and things. He is getting transferred for work and so he is now gone.

B is alone in the townhome until he has to go as the lady is selling it.

So 2 days ago B comes home to find the place is soaked, I mean the floors, counters, light fixtures, you name it, he said he had no clue what happened and nobody was there.

Well I guess there was a problem with his roomates toilet that he reported to the landlady, so I guess it overflowed or something ALL DAY. Its a 2 story, it soaked down into the second story, the kitchen, living room. Oh my what a mess. B said its bad, yesterday they had crews in with air fans and heaters to pull the humitidy out of the place and dry it(you know water damage/mold/etc) Damn that must suck, here she wants to go and sell it and this happens.

So B tells me his roomate left a lot behind. B got his desk, he said its really nice, I havent seen it yet, I will tonight.

The guy left a BBQ! So B said I can take it.

B began to tell me about how hes sent two emails to some people out here about rentals. And he talked to his coworker, who hes rode with before from my town into work. Not sure if I mentioned but he said there is a waiting list on the carpool for his work from my area as its popular.

So he talked to the lady and said “If I move out there would you be interested in regular carpooling?” She said yes and that she was buying a new truck and that gas was going to kill her, but he will share the expense with her.

He talked about how long the days would be if he were to move out here, how hed be up at 5am all week, and home around 5:30-6. And then factor in time at the gym, hed be home later in the eves.

I said “Well its whatever you want to do”

Im not asking him to, I want him to do something he wants.

He has looked at some other places also near him too.

I told him we can always do the nights at the park some eves instead of the gym, doing laps, and he said he was game for that one.

So we got home and relaxed, watched tv, watched some of that new show Rescue Me ? Or Rescue? With Dennis Leary, it is actually quite interesting.

B was spunky, lol I knew it before he even arrived as he mentioned online seeing me naked.

I wasnt as up to it, but found the energy. 🙂 And was greatly rewarded for it, I was just so tired and the gym returning this week! Im sleeping heavier now, and my legs and butt muscles are all sore the past 2 days.

We passed out very quickly. 🙂

And he was up and off at 5am and kissed me goodbye, told me he loved me. My phone rang about 7am. It was B saying to my machine all silly “Hey! Wake up, cmon, its time for you to get up dammit!” I crawled out of bed. He was all excited as his roomate left things behind and B was going through them, told me the guy left his gourmet pots and pans, and that I can have them and that there are various odds and ends in the guys bedroom I can look through.

B is going to have to sell or rid himself of some stuff also, a sofa/sleeper couch, his old desk, a couple older computers, hes going to try the internet site first, and then said he could lug stuff down to the garage and have a sale there, which is perfect! I told him I could lug some of my stuff up there, as hes in a city thats all busy and lots of people and Im sure a garage sale would have better luck there, so perhaps we will do that soon! Wooohooo, that might solve my yard sale dilemma Ive been having, if I sell the Stairmaster through the ad I only have two furniture pieces left to sell, and I can lug one up in my Jeep to B’s for a sale.

LASTLY

My phone rang last night about 11pm which is rare, only B calls that late, my sister used to but havent talked to her in months.

It was my ex. He said “J died” I said “Oh wow, when?” He said “Today I guess”

J is his Grandpas Girlfriend/Common Law Wife.

Mind you, I have known her ever since meeting my ex, as when we first met he lived with her in her mobile home.

Most of Ex’s relatives are not in this city, just his Grandpa has always been, but then later his Aunt and Uncle moved here.

Well J, I have written about her before.

I guess for many reasons I feel I should dislike the woman, but I havent. I have always liked her.

I asked Ex How did she die? I mean I knew she was sick constantly, I saw her about a year ago when I went out to visit and she had throat cancer and all. She has hernia surgeries too, she would drink heavily off and on and get to the point of near death(Ive seen this through the past 15 yrs or so)

But what is even weirder, was Friday my mom wanted to go visit Grandpa and do some family history research on my ex’s side. We talked about going out, so on Sunday my mom phoned them, and spoke to Grandpa, and he said we could come by so my mom said shed have me call J to set up a time. My mom said “How is J doing?” and he replied “Fair”

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I was to call her this week to come over, and then its just so weird, SHES GONE.

I talked to Ex briefly, he said “Nobody really knows yet but my Aunt here local, not even my mom knows, I have to call her after you” Was weird you know my ex called me first?

He said to me “Well you seem so surprised” I said I was to plan to go over there to visit with my Mom.

Ex said “Well when I found out I dont feel bad about it, but Im sorta relieved”

And I dont knock him at all. My ex and J had sex when he was 16 and she was drunk. He told me about this and it was a big motivation for him to want to move out of their place.(Yes long story of family drama)

My Ex’s grandfather had 2 girlfriends, J was the younger, granted she was still older, but seeing as she just died, she must have been in her early 60’s. Grandpa is in his 80’s

So Grandpa lived with J during the week here in town, took off weekends to his other lady, the other lady got all the holidays with him. J only got the 4th of July. She drank. She would get on and off the wagon often.

Later they moved onto Grandpas lot where his Business was. So Id see her whenever Id go over, even my sister went and hung out there and talked to her.

She just loved to talk, her daughter was also the receptionist at my dentist office.

So Ive been around these people for so long and the family.

I guess during the last year of my marriage, at a family holiday get together, J was there, she often wasnt along, my ex and I had been having problems but were still trying to work things out. But my ex was upset at his Mom and her new “Female/Lover/Roomate” and the issue of her neglecting her son after the death of his only brother. So my ex drank that holiday, for the first time ever, he drank at a family get together and got drunk. Mind you prior to that he was mr preacher man.

He was acting stupid, and saying things to his Mom. I pretty much left him be. Everyone came around making remarks, then J walks over to me and says “That poor boy, look what his Mom is doing, she doesnt even seen it, hes hurting, thats why hes doing that” and she was so right on the money, she was the only person there that just got it.

When I was invited to one of the last family functions here in town, after ex and I had separated, J was there, she was so sweet to me, she embraced me, asked me if I was dating and “Had a Fella” haha.

Aweee, now I want to cry….

I really did like her.

Anyways, my ex said his Aunt asked if he could check on Grandpa.

Have no idea how he is feeling, if hes relieved shes gone to some degree along with mourning? I dont really know….

I want to go to the funeral. I wonder where she will be buried, as the cemetery is down the street from my house if she is to be buried. And then the thought of my ex’s family. A FUNERAL, seeing EVERYONE, mainly, My Mom In Law. YUCK. My mom in law hated J.

But I still think she would show for family support for her father.

So Ill see when its to be, and ask my Mom to come with as that could be so awkward, theres a lot of people Id love to see from Ex’s family and family friends and family of J.

I told B when I hung up last night, he just looked at me like Oh.

Didnt say one word or anything. So I guess I just sorta brushed it away in my mind shortly after we hung up. Ex and I. So today Im thinking about her.

That woman lived a tough life, from what I was told but dont know how true it was, she had been a prostitute long ago and Grandpa took her in. Grandpa tends to take in people, hes done that, with men and women, often times very troubled people who take advantage of him but for whatever reason he allows it. He took in my ex when his Mom didnt want him and put him to work, gave him a truck and a roof over his head. So thats where my ex was working for the 4 yrs we dated.

Im thinking of going by the Video store today to return my movie and visit ex’s aunt, shes the manager, she should be in I hope, and find out more details. Ex said she died of the alcohol. Dunno for certain though, she has gotten to the point of her skin being yellow and sirossis? Of the liver and probs like that in the past and near death.