Alcohol

Dear Diary,

I forgot to write…

Last night my cell phone rang around 8pm, it was Ex Husband.

I didnt answer, and he left a voice mail saying “Vicky? I think the kids are going off track? You need to let me know if Im supposed to have them? I dont know if I have them this week……..”

What the ????????

I had this discussion with him a few weeks ago and insisted we have it cause he uses this idiot logic on his time with the kids and if I dont sit with him and have him write it down he wont remember.

Hes all “Vicky, Ill get the kids when I pick them up on my weekend then have them that week” like he knew this and I didnt need to tell him, then he calls me like he doesnt know????????

So I called back his voicemail and said “YES, this is your week, we already discussed this” and that was it.

I never know whats up with him, if he is getting the messages or what. So I told my 9 yr old “Hey your Dad called, I think hes confused, he asked if it was his week with you guys and Mommy already told him so you want to give him a call?”

And get this… My 9 yr old said “Mom, its because of the Beer he is confused”

I was shocked but also impressed at my son.

I said “You think so?” Hes all “Yeah” I said “Well we did talk about alcohol and I told you it can do that to people” He said “Mom, I know, I keep telling him not to drink Beer so much”

WOW.

He said it all so honestly to me but he sounded so adult. And I have no been around my ex to know what level of drinking he is doing now, Im assumed he was, and thats probably why he forgets half the things he and I discuss.

But all i told my son was that there Dad sounded confused, I never mentioned alcohol and my son came up with this himself, so obviously he has observed it, and hes telling his Dad not to drink so much?
WOW

Disgusting though, I grew up with an alcoholic father, when ex and I were together we didnt have that in our home. It was the one thing i didnt want my kids to have to go through. I remember knowing as a kid my Dad was an alcoholic and wanting to dump his alcohol down the sink.

Setting my son up for more freaking Codependent crap behavior. Hes my sensitive one who looks out for us.