October Work Drama and Politics

Dear Diary,
Well I made it to Oct, its slowly starting to drop in the temps, still warm, but about 10 degrees cooled, just under 100 and the A/C runs far less and house stays cooler.

Still warm though and dealing with mosquitos when I do go outside so that sucks.

Some more antique store drama. I work 1 day a week, by choice, Not because I have too, but because I want to. And all had settled down it seemed with M, the young manager, but the owner started talking to me the past 2 tuesdays Ive worked, with he and M. When M isnt around he started telling me he got 2 phones in a wknd from vendors, and found out a long time vendor who we havent seen much or bringing stuff in, what was up, she said she didnt want to come in when M was present as he talked to her like she stupid and that her stuff is crap.

Another came in for her check, and she used to own the store that was comprised in the front of our building and they moved out to a diff location, vintage clothing store, but they still have a booth at ours, well he smarted off to her and she called the owner too.

Then the owners wife got upset cause he calls her sweetheart all the time as they worked a wknd event(her sister hates M) but owner talked to me about how he talks to women, I wasnt bugged by sweetheart and dont really notice it, but there are other things I have seen with 2 other vendors since being there, married women that I think just arent appropriate but the ladies seemed okay with it so what could I do? They are grown women,

And all of this with a guy in his 20s??? Most of us are late 30s early 40s.

Anyways, the owner went away as of yesterday out of the country for a delayed honeymoon with his wife, he wont be back till the end of Oct. And I go into the store today to work with M(which I already asked to not work days with him when my new hours were set) and he in turn was to place me with someone else, then put me on days with the owner, THEN put M on those days. So the last 2 wks Ive had the owner present and its been fine, but first day hes gone? Blech, I was about to start crying today and was upset and was about to just leave and go home. The guy wouldnt let me put the ac on or even have a fan at the register? It was bizarre and then told me “Vicky go do what your gonna do” when I pushed it, I told him it was too hot in the warehouse, and they took all the fans away, they are gone, nowhere to be found, so I pulled mine out of my vendor space(all the vendors have fans to keep them cool and the air moving) and I brought it to the register, he then unplugged and moved it away. I lost it then, after him telling me the owner said we couldnt run the swamp coolers until the afternoon. I said “that makes no sense, thats when the heat hits, if you dont cool it down now it wont and its going to be hot again this wk” he began arguing with me the temp in the building, I said I needed some moving air, it was stagnant and I had sweat running down my back at noon, it was only going to get worse, and we have swamp coolers? Now we cant use those either? What the heck is the point???

I thought of my sis and some stuff for her at her job, weather and temp conditions and her basically refusing to work in them and saying she was going home. she ended up calling me and said “Vicky, you dont have to be there, you dont owe them anything, you dont have to work under that, Id call the owner, he needs to know” Which Owner has never been like that with me, he did contact me from my text. He apologized, I told him M seems hostile since I arrived today, and that I cant run any air, he said “Vicky you can run whatever cooler you need. Im so sorry, I told him the other day if I get one more call from a Vendor hes DONE….” his connection kept cutting off, I know hes in a hard place as hes out of the country till end of the month and I felt bad contacting him. But I told him if it continued I was going to go home. M can handle the day alone if needed and I didnt need his hostility. He said I could do whatever I needed to do.

I kept busy with other vendors who came in today and stayed away from M as much as possible. I work till 5, by 3 is settled down and was quiet in the store and it was just tense and awkward feeling around M, no talking (meanwhile last wk he was total opposite, saying hes going to be positive and encouraging and going overboard with compliments, like from one extreme to the other) but this was the worst day since being there Ive had with him since he came on board. I felt like crying and had to walk into the front room to just center myself.

Its always something isnt it?

By 4 M came up to me all the sudden while Im talking to 2 people in the store and said “YOu can go home since your hot and your want to go in the front room” I was taken aback, It was more that I was avoiding him, it wasnt the heat that was the issue in the end, it was HIM. I didnt want to argue, I just said okay and left and just was happy to get out an hour early. I get home and at 5:30 I get a text from him that says “Hope your feeling better PAL, the store was slow, so its all good” I was taken aback as he was a total cold, passive aggressive jerk today, not friendly from the moment I got in the door. So it was confusing getting that message.

So Im out to dinner with hubby tonight, he knows whats been going on, and I was discussing how I dont have to be there or work there, I do it because I enjoy it, but whatever his issue is, he needs to get it under control and deal with his own stuff and not project it onto others, I dont come there to deal with his crap. I want to be there, he said today he was looking for another job and also that he didnt want to be there in between his moodiness.

So I am not sure what is going to happen, I was looking at the calendar and seeing I have 2 more tuesdays with him till the owner returns and I was figuring I may be calling in sick for one, but then found out another gal vendor was placed to work next tues. So I found out from her so I think that will be great as I get along well with her. So I can handle it I think if I dont have to deal with M.

Then a vendor J, came in, today was the first day for our new computer store system for our inventory so several vendors came in to use the system which we were all sent emails this am to come in and start using it in the store to enter our new inventory and print the label. I had to figure it out myself this am, some confusing, little help from Grumpy M, and so I helped 3 of the vendors use it, then J was there and M left to get lunch. During that time the internet stopped working on the one computer but the other was being used and fine. So J stood up front, an older guy, then he went on a politcal rant. Which I hate when people come right up to others and start on politics, not knowing what the other party believes or thinks but talking to you like your are in agreement with them, and yes Im a Republican Conservative and have had numerous Democrats do that to me, I find it annoying. I dont go up to people and assume to know what they think and that they are the same as me and then trash what they believe or who they are going to vote for, but I have had it happen to me. And today J went off and very judgemental making statements about certain voters and labeling them, and he labeled me doing so, I said “J, then Im one of them, you need to be careful and not assume everyone agrees with you, but this is NOT the place for politics” as I have been in the store 2 other times when guys start up at the cash register, and the owner has told them he doesnt discuss that there and told me he hates when people do that. So I told J twice “this is not the place” he was behind the register and kept going on even after I told him that. Good grief… I ended up walking out to the gal vendor I know on the other computer and I said “Helppp” and she made a face and went geeze!, I said “Did you hear that?” she said “Yes”

None of us are going to change one anothers minds by just ragging on each other. So whats the point? And then to flat out make a judgement on a person, not cool.

Im sitting here wondering “What am I doing?” at times. Why do I put myself in this? Am I doing what I enjoy why am I adding this other stuff to the mix.

So far I have delegated yard work for to a landscaper to lighten my load, then I got out of here a bit for the summer(next summer I will leave even more and dont want to work at the store) Not sure how much longer I will work there, or may need to have another talk about just not working or if I do working with the other guys(the other 2 I have no issues working with)

Im stuck with my booth at the moment, sales have been slow, so until a big item sells its really hard to get more stuff in and I cant take the big items out after my truck was totalled. I just have the van and the sofa is way too big for it to move it out and I dont want to bring it back home.

So pray it goes, please Lord! So I can get more stuff in my booth and out of my house.

Im also trying to get back into exercising again, I hiked 2 days alone, hubby and I go to this park on the wknd and hike it and started with the weathers slight improvement but we have to go early. So I went out 2 other days on my own as its not super isolated and I can go myself.

thats its for now

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