Faithfullness

Dear Diary,

Well friday my Mom calls me about 5:45pm. Said Ex just came and got kids things, and he had a note. I guess when he went to pick kids up my youngest got a parent notice. On his field trip to the bowling alley he smacked another kid.

So ex had to listen to them and sign a notice that he was informed which also puts a warning down for my son in the program. If he gets 3 hes kicked out.

Well I left a note at my Moms about little ones arguing behavior lately. Just so his Dad would know, so perfect he was greeted with an update from the after school program also. So Mom just let me know and said the kids report cards were there also. Well during Mom, ex was phoning me too. I did not answer.

He left me a message saying Little one got in trouble and hes saying “Vicky? What is this? What is going on? What does this mean????”

Fuck him.

I didnt call him back. What does it mean? Like I have to tell him?????? Hes a parent this week, bout damn fricking time he had to face it and deal with it. Not sure if it will help little one any, but I wasnt going to get interrogated over it. Ex is a big boy, I dont call him and say “Whats going on??????” when they get in trouble in my care unless it involves him.

He never called back.

I am worried about little one though.

My kids used to act out in school on the days their Dad would get them, that has stopped so this was a first in a long while.

Then I talked to my oldest sister. We talked quite a bit this weekend.

So heres the latest….

He leaves for a trip this week for a week, when he returns he will tell the 2 daughters he and mom are splitting up. Hes moving out and renting a room with a coworker. He said he will pay the bills on the house and all.

My sister is going in to file for a legal separation for protection, but she hasnt given up hope, but she cant work at the marriage if hes not even willing to do any work.

Its all so strange. I do like the guy. ANd its really weird as sister and I talk about all this together. We arent all “Hes a jerk!” or any of that. She just says that she and her hubby were both depressed, they worked opposing hours, so they werent seeing one another. Sister has signed up for therapy, is in on a new business venture, she told me she is getting up now, showering, she bought new clothes and got her hair done, she told me I will not recognize her when I see her. She said she just stopped taking care of herself.

Im glad about the therapy, shes just been on the anti depressants and preaching how good things were for so long. But she was letting her appearance and house go.

I really feel theres more to the story but I can only go with what is said so far.

We dont think her hubby is in reality, so its sorta like just letting him go, not sure how it will all play out. I told B about it and hes all “What the fuck? That woman hes interested in must really be fucked up??? 4 kids, 2 diff Dads and she cant have a man sleep over cause of the court papers?”

My sisters husband is drawn to victim types, he loves to play the Rescuer and we even discussed this before, He and I(maybe this is my issue also)

He helped my sister a lot and went through a lot of garbage.

Hes a good guy and my sister said there is no blame, its so weird, people may think she and I are nuts but my sister said “You cant help it when you fall in love with a person” Now granted we doubt this is all about Love, Its more of a fantasy, we dont think hes in reality.

The worst part of it all, THE KIDS.

When my sister and him got together, he was divorcing as was she. They then went to court and got custody of his daughter who was 3 at the time. His ex wife was into drugs and porn and the child saw porn at an early age and was acting out sexually and they couldnt keep her in a day care cause she was touching other children. She had to go through a lot of therapy, my sister also worked with her a lot and helped her turn around.

This girl is now 10.

When my sister and he were dating the therapist told them both to decide now if they were going to stay together, that this child could not go through another loss, the abandonement issues and abuse, She was forming a bond to my sister as a Mom. So they agreed they were in this for th elong haul. And my sister is now her MOM, her mom has no involvement in her life.

Then about a year and a half ago, they got a call out of state about the daughters half sister(This is no blood relation to my bro in law) Its his ex’s wife child from another man. She was living with Grandparents most of her life and they said they could not take care of her anymore, and were turning her over to the state, and did they want her. My sister and her hubby then took her and her parents now.

So they have these 2 girls who have been thru the ringer, and now their Dad is walking out.

OUCH. I need to talk more to my sister about the girls….

I am more worried about them then my sister.

And my heart does go out to her husband, I have liked him, I even talked to him at Christmas about Gym Guy and B. We talked a bit.

Im sad, I dont know what will happen,,,,

My sister sounds okay, I mean she is going through a lot but she sounds good, she is making changes as a result, a lot of changes for herself, shes feeling again, she isnt all la de da la la land like she has been for sometime.

Why is it so difficult now to be faithful. How can one keep things intact even through the rough times?

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