Comment Response

In response to Celandras comment.

“My first reaction to your sister demanding money from your parents is that she’s is totally out of line. Maybe the reason your parents HAVE money is because they DO act like they don’t have it, and live their lives that way. That’s how it was done back when we were kids. That’s why THEY have it we DON’T. THEY’VE earned it and it’s theirs to do with as they please. They don’t owe any of it to their kids”

Im in agreement with you on that. My youngest sister is the tax person financial prepper. My oldest sister is the one who made the comment. She also keeps telling me “Let mom go ahead and pay for all of your legal fees! Theyve messed us all up emotionally, its the least they can do, dont worry about paying her back” and I feel at times this filtering into my head.

My middle sister refers to my bro and oldest sis as Bitter. Which is very true. And Im not denying that they werent mistreated by my parents. They obviously were. But it still doesnt make it right.

I have to really be careful. I can see it with my oldest sister. She was angry last night, and crying. She was mad because my Dad sent gift certificates for her 2 stepdaughters. But not one for my nephew( Hes in jail) Shes mad that my mom doesnt call, yet my mom calls and she doesnt want to talk and doesnt answer, and is mad she called to ask about my nephew. She called and asked her hubby what to get my nephew for christmas. And he just told her “Well hes in jail this year” Soo? Then my sister is upset on the phone saying my parents are thoughtless and havent sent him anything the past few years. And then she went on to say my nephew will need things when he is released.

So I listen to her, I understand her hurt, I know some of it is truth, but I also feel it doesnt matter what my parents do, they do wrong either way they go. And she doesnt tell them what she wants or expects.

So as I said, what my oldest sister said about us needing money and saying that my youngest sister said to give it to us. Im not really sure what that was about, because it didnt make much sense. I cant see telling my parents “You have to give us all this and that much” I can see saying “Listen, some of them are in need, and it would be nice if you could help” but thats different.

My sister has a lot of hurt and bitterness. Shes more content and in a PUNISH mom and Dad mode, As me and my middle sister are dealing with issues, but love them and dont want to write them off or punish them. We just know its time for things to be said to them, set up boundaries and tell them when they hurt us, and take care of ourselves and not let them control us as adults.

Anyways, thanks Celandra, I just wanted you to know I was in agreement with your statement.