Ok Hes an ASS

Well I had the appointment today with my ex representing himself at my Attnys office to settle the house matter. I was a little nervous. Like I wrote in my last post. I knew either Id get Mr Jerk Cocky, or Nice guy. He goes back and forth and I never know who I will get. My ex got rid of his attny, claimed he wanted to settle and his attny wouldnt. And that she yelled at him. So he wanted to come and settle so my attnys paralegal set up the meeting date and spoke to him. So today was the day. I go in and the paralegal lady and my attny are present. I tell them “I already have support and custody established. I just want the divorce to be final and to settle the house, the house is really my only concern, I want it settled” Before I get to say anymore, my attny looks at me and says “Hi Victoria, its so nice to see you” and smiles and says “Bring him in” Im a little nervous. Since I wanted to talk more about what I want and the game plan, but attny just wanted him in.

My Ex walks in. OMGOSH! This bright purple flashy dress shirt, tie, dress slacks, heavy cologne, carrying his lap top, folders, cell phone, and a tape recorder! He flings the recorder on the attnys desk and says “May I record this?” He says sure.

For those of you who are aware, my ex isnt very bright. He likes to APPEAR to know it all and that hes in control. But hes NOT. He sits down and my attny says

“I understand you want to settle. Umm Mr. Ex so you quit your job right before the wage assignment and have moved back from out of state to here. Are you working now?”

Ex says NO

Attny “Are you planning on getting a job or just avoiding working?”

Ex “Well, uhhh no, I wasnt fired I was terminated and Im in the middle of a OSHA lawsuit against my former employer”

Attny says “Oh I see, so now you are suing your past employer?”

My Ex runs off his mouth saying Im lying about my income, my hours, that Im making more money then I claim, that everything basically I gave values for in our legal papers is a lie, etc etc. And that our house is now miraculously worth more according to him. And I owe him $37,000 for his half of equity ( our initial amount was $12,000 for each of us) My ex hasnt been paying court ordered support, so my attny tries several negotiation options. Saying we will wave all past amounts owed in exchange I get the house and not owe him. Ex refuses. Attny says we lower support amounts. Ex says No. Attny even offers that he doesnt have to pay support until June next year! Ex says NO.

So attny says “So basically you want Vicky to move out and sell the house” Ex once again attacks my information and flings papers around with allegations. He says “Fine this will just go to trial, I get a continuance until i can afford another attny!”

So attny said “Mr. Ex, Vicky is my Client and I LIKE HER. You arent paying support. Please leave my office.”

OMGOSH! My ex grabs his things and walks out quickly. I put my head down. Tears came from my eyes. I just had to loose it. I wasnt really scared of him but it was so nerve racking just witnessing this and see how uncooperative and what a donkey my ex was and how he thought he was so in control of it all. The paralegal looks up and says “Woa, nice guy” The attny and paralegal both look at me and he says “Vicky, are you wanting to get married soon?” I said NO. He said “Ok good, we arent going to do ANYTHING. We arent setting a court date. We will just let things sit and the support amounts add up. As long as you can make the mortgage payment you will be fine. When the time comes and this does go to court your ex will be so far behind the judge wont give him ANYTHING.”

They were all wonderful to me. This attny has been great. I had to pay for todays meeting, and even though nothing was settled. It was well worth watching my Attny talk at my ex and know hes full of BS then tell him to LEAVE NOW.

I did cry a little, just had to let it out, but Im ok. Nothing was settled, but its ok, it wont harm anything really. 🙂

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