Get popcorn for this K?

Dear Diary,

Ive been dying to write this!

Well last night my ex called and left a message saying he was picking the kids up at 5 pm fri nite at courthouse according to his EMAIL.

LOL HA! His email said Sat at 8am and he said “I will be waiting there for the kids” then said he cant get to his email. So I had to call him since that wasnt gonna work. I wont even have the kids ready in time. So I called him back and reminded him of his email and he said “Oh yeah Victoria you are right” and was civil and I told him he could get that at 7pm Fri eve.

Well he started to talk, and well I let him. And let him and let him. B taught me that one, said “Just listen he likes to say to much, so let him”

So pull up a chair and a bowl of popcorn for this okay?

Here is what ex said…

“Vicky Im living back in Cali now did you know that?” I asked oh why? He went on to say “Well it seems I was doing my job so well, better than everyone at the company that it bothered someone who decided to make up slanderous comments about me, and then went and got 6 other employees to lie and say things about me. I was called in and “Terminated” for no reason other then “This isnt working out and that I wore sandals to work” I dont understand why they did this to me. I was doing so good and in therapy and I got on Ritalin and Prozac( I asked if he got a diagnosis. He said “ADHD and Depression” so here is the rest…” Vicky Im filing a lawsuit and I have a pretty good case and Im getting really good with lawyers now!”

I just listened. Omgosh its so weird hearing him now. I can see through his BS and not believe his words anymore. Every job he has worked has a similar ending. But normally he quits( which he may have who knows this is only his version) But he always leaves so terribly wronged according to him and I was always supportive and believing him(until his last job prior to this one) I said this is too weird to happen THIS many times and hes never at fault.

He then said he isnt dating that woman I know anymore, that he read a good book and I should read it to “Boundaries and Dating” I laugh hearing him to tell me to read a book. I have the original Boundaries book one of our counselors gave us that HE NEVER READ. And Ive learned plenty about Boundaries since being apart from him. But he said reading the book is why is not with that woman anymore. What that means have no idea, but doesnt matter.

He also said that he cannot stand knowing I have a boyfriend, that it drives him nuts, That one day he is cursing my name, next day he is crying missing me. Telling me that is why his behavior is so erratic that he just cant handle knowing that Im intimate with someone else in the way he knew me. And then he said that is why it is better we dont talk and email. (Ha that was my idea!) But then he would say how he missed having me to talk to and as a friend, but then would alternate back and forth. He brought up this little speech several times during the call so that part set off some red flags for me. He hasnt let me go and is resisting it, If its that difficult for him why on earth live near me?

We also discussed the house issue, so its worth a shot, he said to provide him documents and receipts for all our time apart and what he owes me and we can deduct it. In his mind he says hes paid me support fully up until April this year? UMMM yeah. Delusional again?

He said he would rather handle the house issue between ourselves. Which is great if it can be done, its worth a shot if we can settle things on an amount but then I will take the final proposal to my attny to get it in writing. So we shall see, he hasnt even spoken to his attny so he said, and had no idea about a 4 way meeting and didnt want to do it. He said “Why pay them” Which if he is unemployed right now, and filing some crazy lawsuit against a company that is all over the US. Thats gonna take some money, I hate to say it, but hes really losing it. Hes not hit bottom at all.

He ended the call telling me he wants the kids every other weekend, and wed eves, and to change the papers and that I screwed him on the taxes filing head of household(which I was entitled to) and that he wants to knwo the amount of that credit and get his portion and that the money I paid for schooling last year I had help from my parents(like he isnt obligated to pay his half of our childrens needs) and so yeah he started to dictate. I told him “Slow down, you just got here, you need to get settled first then we can talk” Thank God I have the custody papers drawn at least. EEESH. I dont mind him seeing them more, but its not gonna be on his terms. He is all over the place and I really dont expect it to get better for him to be honest.

I told my Mom about what he said. She said “I just worry about those kids, their lives here are stable, and I see just how they come back after those weekends with him, I just worry about them and their lives being upset”

Im mostly worried about manipulation games with them via communication.

So ex is unemployed now. so forget the wage assignment. And there is no dental I know now also.

As my old attny said “Well your next issue after all this is done is When he quits his job” and well here we are.

I do feel a little better having some idea of what is up and why he is back. But still I have no idea what is in store. Im wiser now. And Ive learned about the games he plays, and I have a great support to combat it.