Meeting

Dear Diary,

Just got in, the kids have been at Vacation Bible School this week so it gives me a few free hours. So Ive been at the gym again. Its been harder to go with the kids out of school.

Ive actually been losing weight, because of the “Stress” diet Im on. I eat but I dont feel like eating a lot these days. Only time I really enjoy eating seems is when Im away with B.

Well Ive been talking to Mr Hollywood/Comedian guy lately. Hes really cool. Hes going thru stuff with his girl hes dating. And he is just so much fun to talk to last night he just had me laughing.

So today I went and met with the new attorney. Which was interesting.

He says “Victoria, your attorney and your ex’s attorney do NOT get along, Im not sure if you know about this” I said “Well Im aware she used to work for him and he trained her” He replied “Well they DONT NOT get along. She hates him and he does not like her AT ALL. This is well known in the courts, Your attorney hates having to work with her, just today he called me to handle one of his cases. I will tell you right now, I get along with EVERYONE. I want to try and get this worked out for you, I can even have your ex and his attorney sit down and have a 4 way between us” I can have you down with a court date within in a week.”

You get so used to doubting what these people say after all Ive been through, yet on the other hand you want to hope and believe them.

He said to me “With everything that is going on Victoria, you are in the drivers seat in all of this, the mother in law isnt an issue, she does not matter” he didnt want to hear about any of the crap. He said “This is getting way out of hand, things need to be taken care of and I get his attorney and him in here to talk this out”

I said “Well my other attny and her already spoke about this, My ex’s attorney did not get back with mine to discuss anything, left us hanging, had us sitting in court for several hours, my ex didnt even show up and she ended up telling my attny last min they were rejecting everything and she wouldnt ok the mother issue”

He said once again “Victoria, there are issues between these 2 attorneys and it gets in the way of the people are they are trying to help, it becomes a power struggle. Its not about you or your ex, but what is going on between these 2 attorneys who have it out for eachother.

So he took my folder and wants it for 3 days, my personal folder. And then said he wants to meet with me beginning of next week. Ouch another $2500 later. He said he wants to prevent this all from going to a trial. So we shall see.

Im beginning to wonder here, cause my new attorney asked me about the most recent convos since my ex hired this attny. And has started these sexual allegations. I guess what im getting at is it sounds like he was trying to figure out if this has started since he hired her, my ex making these claims, which sounds about right. Then my attorney wanting to pull out the minute this came up. My attorney is a Christian, and we have spoken about our faith together. And if someone is using unethical tactics, especially involving sexual allegations, well no wonder my attorney has stopped handling cases like this dealing with her. I think its just his way of getting out of dealing with her. But who knows, this is my own speculation, But my attorney is readily handing cases over to this guy to handle. He speaks as an advocate for children in the courts.

So Im basically just cutting off all contact with my ex for the moment. He sent me an email 3 times today at work, the same one he sent over the weekend about my sitters husband and about his woman and wanting the kids later in July. I dont have to really do or say or agree to anything at this point, just wait for the upcoming court dates and all and let this stuff get settled that way. No more dealing with my ex’s crap.

Hes back to calling the kids every day several times a day leaving messages. I hate when he does this. He sent me the same email 3 times, then calls for them 3 times. He did this not long ago and my attorney said I should write it in my papers how often he can call. He said twice a week is good for the ex, and that the children can call him whenever they want. So Ive pretty much adopted that rule.

My kids are doing well. Im proud of them. They have faired through all of this well, I think mainly due to the childrens group they now have, and the fact that the kids and I do talk and dont shove all of this away. And now Im starting to be more open with them. Not that they need to know about everything but also I cant keep them from all that occurs.

Im trying to gain some peace of mind, when I talked to Mr Comedian last night he mentioned how nice it was to hear me laugh and not be saying “Ex this or Ex that” That struck me. How that is true and so consumes so much of my life. I am a fun loving enjoyable person, but I walk around in this opression of the ex. Hes not even here and I still live in fear of him and what he will do or say and watch my actions for fear of what he will do.