He played Games Again

Dear Diary,

When I signed offline I checked my voice mail and my mother had called. My ex has the children for the weekend. We spoke on the phone nicely last night. I told him what times to get each child and where. The drop off place has been my parents house for every visit. I did his relatives place in town last July, but he proceeded to bring out firecrackers and things just as I arrived. I was not in the mood to hang out there and he got the kids all excited. I was getting highly frustrated cause he knew I was coming to pick them up and they should be ready to go. So I finally had to tell him it was time for us to go, so he pulled the sad face and telling the kids “Your mom says you have to go” bit and then they were upset at me they wanted to play. What an asshole you know. So I had to stop going there.

So last night we spoke, we have had it set he would drop the kids off at my parents on Sunday morning. And we even spoke last night. He was nice to me and civil. He asked for his $150 sunglasses again. Which is the only thing I have had here that he has really been wanting and bugging me about.

He has my DVD Christmas present, he hasnt paid me child support this month, the past 3 mos bounced on the first time thru at the bank, he hasnt helped me with any of the shared debts or childcare for over a year. He owed me money from his visit out here in Dec I charged his truck airport parking and he said his job would reimburse me. He dialed up on a non local service so I recieved a phone bill, plus the bank fees for his bounced checks. I have sent requests twice and copies of everything and he said he would pay me back. YEAH RIGHT VICTORIA. Why do you give someone the benefit of the doubt to be nice?

So my mother said he left no child support, his tone was defensive, he tried asking my mom about my legal matters. She then said “So you will be here at what time on Sunday?” and he said “Oh, Victoria is picking them up at my relatives house”

What a fucking bastard! :::cries:::

See he still had to screw with this!

We just spoke last night and he said my parents.

So my Mom said “Does Victoria know this?” He said “Oh yeah I told her”

My mother said his tone was very matter of fact, hes trying to show hes in control. What a jerk!

So Im pissed off hes doing this over a visitation. But what can I do about it? NOTHING right now. Because nothing is formally written. I called my girlfriend upset. She said “Well just remember, this will be his last time pulling such a stunt.”

Which is true, I didnt write, but next week he is being served an order to show cause, for his talking deragatory about me around the children. The attny said he will then have to come out here in a month for a court date, and they will basically establish formalized visitation, custody and child support.

My ex is in for the biggest rude awakening.

And my biggest concern, if he is in this mindset right now. He has the children. 🙁 I told them both before school this AM once again, that they dont have to answer Dads questions about me, that it is none of his business and they can say no.

I will say it again, this is WHY im not with him anymore!